Some scary facts

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by Talvenada

BIONCA:

I love your spunk, and not the wet kind. You want a humane world, which is being ahead of your time. It took Jesus Christ to go from a barbarian world to a civilized world, and it will take a major event to go from a civilized world to a humane one. You, like me, live in a country where you have those who are open to other points of view, because they understand that no matter how smart they are there is so much they don't know. Then, there are those who have all the answers, and need not listen to those of another opinion. I won't label them, but if you notice they seem to have similar characteristics.


PM me on the friendly situation that troubles you, because being a t-girl exposes you to something that others don't see. YOU have had a major impact on this site, and if you go the many won't understand reality from fantasy. Sometimes, you're even sexy. Like it or not, you are the t-girl that the other t-girls look up to. You are the one with the balls! You will fall many more times, and get up just as often.

PM me on what troubles you, as I didn't get what the hint was. I can only guess, but without certainty.


Piece,


TAL

Tal,

It's not a big deal why I'm not really participating here much. The all to frequent mis-gendering of trans women, being described as a "fetish" (sexual attraction to objects or body parts not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature), and the ever popular "real woman" comments.

Having to have these conversation in, you know, my day-to-day life makes having these conversations here tiring and frustrating. The fact that these comments and attitudes are nearly always confronted by myself or one of the other gals with very little support from the guys makes me wonder why I spend time here.

I initially wanted to give a non-sex working TGs perspective on relationships, sex, and living. To give humanity to the images. However, I'm not really feeling that many guys actually WANT to "get it". I used to come here and joke around, flirt, and make some corrections where folks had some facts or opinions that I thought should be clarified.

Lately, I read comments and wonder what guys honestly think about trans women. I wonder how the attitudes expressed here were shared by the folks in the link I gave above. If I'm not "real" enough, if I'm an OBJECT that has been sexualized, if I am a dirty secret - to guys who have the awareness to share their desires for trans women (even if on the Internet) - what hope is there in my world where I walk and no person knows I'm a Trans woman.

If I have to defend my right to self-identification, or my claim to be who I know I am, or to even claim status as a person who CAN be "sexual in nature". If I need to have this conversation alone (at least it feels like it) time after time in a place that should feel safe(er) what's the point?