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[uaeman]

Well I fera what people will say and what if I like it then what where will it end .

he probably fears that it will be TOO amazing !!!

[twistedone]

I could understand if you feel apprehension for your first experience with a shemale, and I would definitely suggest that you work through it. Get to the other side of it.

Like Bionca said, what is there to be afraid of? Social stigma? homophobia?
My response to both of those is "fuck it!" I don't give a rats ass what society thinks of me or finds what I do unacceptable to them as long as I'm not a threat to society. And I'm not.

Being gay? So what? Accept it and enjoy it. Besides, its none of people's business what yours or my sexual preferences may or may not be, again, as long as I'm no threat to society, which I am not.

Life is too short, don't let fear slow you down. Live and love to the fullest. There may not be a tomorrow to do it.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by uaeman

Well I fera what people will say and what if I like it then what where will it end .

Fearing what people may say I can understand. The thing is, think of the transwomen who have to deal with that fear all day every day. Though, for us what people say often translates into what people DO. So, sure I get the fear, but I live with it and live my life - with COURAGE and DIGNITY, I would hope that a man could muster a fraction of the courage and dignity of a transwoman - but I'm often wrong in cases like this.

What if you like it? I suppose you'd like it then don't you?

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Fearing what people may say I can understand. The thing is, think of the transwomen who have to deal with that fear all day every day. Though, for us what people say often translates into what people DO. So, sure I get the fear, but I live with it and live my life - with COURAGE and DIGNITY, I would hope that a man could muster a fraction of the courage and dignity of a transwoman - but I'm often wrong in cases like this.

What if you like it? I suppose you'd like it then don't you?

I simply cannot deal with all those selfrighteous guys and their petty-angst for what will mama and uncle say about me and a DANGEROUS transsexual woman...

The angst is beyond being just ridiculous - the fact is that they are stealing aways one of the greatest joys they can have to find themselves.

It's time we start looking at this seriously and not just as an idiotic sexual infatuation. Being with a transsexual woman, of course, has sexual implications - as being with any other girl has. But in the end that's not the point. And if a guy can be honest enuff with himself to admit that a transsexual woman brings him more joy than a cisgendered girl on all accounts, then what is there to hesitate about?

But maybe it also takes courage to be a HETEROGAY as well as it takes guts to be a transsexual...

What can we do? Will you marry me, Bionca? ;-)



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[Bionca]

It absolutely takes courage to be open about an attraction to trans*women. It takes guts to admit an attraction that doesn't fit neatly into the one man/one woman (genetic of course) dynamic.

Unfortunately, I think most men are cowards in their personal life. I'm going to get all feminist and political here for a second....


so I'll shut up now.


I know I have more balls then any man I have dated/slept with/met for drinks/turned down.. and I'm a HUGE wuss in most respects.

[SweetCharmer]

some people just need to think "right whats the point in being in this rut of not being bold enough and push forward" i for one agree with hankhavelock and bionca

[sesame]

I think most men are cowards in their personal life

Bionca turns out to be a hardcore Man-Hater feminist!
Yet she looks forward to date with those cowards!
What a contradiction that is!

[sesame]

Twistedone:

Being gay? So what? Accept it and enjoy it. Besides, its none of people's business what yours or my sexual preferences may or may not be, again, as long as I'm no threat to society, which I am not.

Bravo! Great speech. Thats the independent spirit!

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by sesame

Bionca turns out to be a hardcore Man-Hater feminist!
Yet she looks forward to date with those cowards!
What a contradiction that is!

I am a feminist, and I love men. I do think that *most* (not all) men are cowards in their personal lives. Like I have as my sig.....

[marlowe]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I know I have more balls then any man I have dated/slept with/met for drinks/turned down..

Um... forgive me for asking but... how big are your balls?