Are There Transsexuals here who have successfully married?

[CreativeMind]

Originally Posted by rockabilly

Why should the state or government say who can or cant be married. Dont get me wrong i want to have a Tgirlfriend and spend my life w/ her but i feel like "big brother" should butt out of our life. It should be enough that i want to share a life w/ a Tgirl that a piece of paper shouldn't hold us back. Maybe i'm wrong but Marrige is just a word for the ceremony of joining two people together.

Well, it's really NOT just a word because...

Originally Posted by fionahavelock

Well of course people getting married also for many reason, protections, rights and also benefit. Such as divorce protection, medical, social security and so on.

Bingo. Fiona has it exactly right. THAT'S why marriage is more than a word. Over time, we've based quite a few laws and protections in our country around the rights that a spouse will LEGALLY have regarding health care, insurance coverage, divorce proceedings, property distribution, inheritance rights, tax stature...all sorts of things.

I know it sounds simple to simply say "I should just be able to marry who I love", but as a society the ramifications of are very far reaching. Mind you, I'm not saying there shouldn't be same sex marriage or whatever, I'm just saying that even if today -- some how, some way -- someone magically waved a wand and passed same sex marriage laws in all 50 states you'd STILL see YEARS of legal debates over the things I just listed above and more, because even THEN you'd get into legal fights over "when" should certain changes and rights be legally recognized.

In short, this is going to be a mess for at least another decade or more as people continually slug it out in the court system. In short, look at California. Prop 8 passed and now to challenge it, opponents will have to wait for yet another election -- at which point there's still no guarantee they'd even win. Which means ANOTHER cycle of years waiting for ANOTHER election period or MORE years of court battles.