i love tgirls but i love my gf. what do i do?!?!

Originally Posted by guiltydreamer

I am not looking for a TS life partner, but am highly attracted to a girl with a penis. I do not seek a loving relationship with a TS partner as I know for me this will not work (as far as I can speculate)

May I ask why you think a relationship with a trans girl won't work?

I mean the only difference between us and cis women, is they are able to give birth, but we are not. So if that's your reason, than yeah I can sort of understand that, though there's always the option of adoption.

[Ana Mancini]

Find the girl ( TGirl ) that is the biggest turn on to you, and one day call her into the room and show her. Just say look what I found. Make sure at some point she realizes that you are turned on. ( an erection at this point would be good ) Dont make a big deal out of it the first time. Then later show her another and make sure she sees you are turned on. Then one day tell her about a Dream you had and describe the dream. See how she reacts.

[EdwardSinclair]

Originally Posted by ThirdEyeGirl

...though there's always the option of adoption.

Having studied genetics for a while, I could tell you that through recombinant DNA, adoption will not be your only option in the near future! The Science is advancing so fast, that it's possible for you to get a donated non-fertilized egg, remove it's DNA material (nucleus), and place your desired DNA material, in this case the tgirls. You'd then proceed to fertilizing the egg with the male gamete, and you'd need to find a surrogate mother of course! This has all already been possible for many years, but the ethical implications are numerous unfortunately.

It's also relevant to note, that cis women are at a clear advantage here, because even if men ceased to exist, women could live on by cloning themselves in this manner. Men would always need a surrogate mother of some kind!

I in fact I remember seeing such a society in one of the Cpt. Kirk's Star Trek episodes from back in the late 60's, not the best of references but it does prove that the theory is not new! Sci-fi's are great btw, first time I saw anything similar to ipads/mobile phones was on a Sci-fi (but I digress).

[EdwardSinclair]

I have tried to catch up with this thread:

It's clear this thread has brought up several sensitive issues that I have seen in other threads throughout this forum, and it gets old fast! There is absolutely no way we can educate everyone, and trying, just feels like a waste of positive energy!

I just can't stand seeing people bashing each other!

Having said that, the OP Dean needed help, and without judging anyone, here is a list of things that I think severely hurt a relationship (I have done them all at least once, so I am not pointing a finger):

Insensitivity
Gross disrespect for other peoples feelings, by doing and saying things without caring if it will hurt them or not! It gives a sense that you don't care about that person...

Lies
This is very important, because when we lie to others we also lie to ourselves! We limit maximum enjoyment of an activity out of guilt, and in the end we are the greatest losers! Furthermore, you fail to communicate how you feel, creating a barrier and distancing yourself from others! This may or may not give rise to Betrayal...

Betrayal
Gross misconduct, angels have been sent to hell for this, and hell hath no fury like a woman scorned! Hardly any relationship will recover from this, and if it does, trust will always be an issue! Probably why some prefer to kiss and not tell...

Lack of Communication
Communication is the basis of a relationship, you may have sex, but when you are tired of it, you need a companion you can talk to. The lack of communication is detrimental to getting to know someone, or letting them know how you feel. It is aggravated by fights, and those times you don't want to talk out of spite...

I want to conclude with:
Be respectful to others, as you'd like them to be respectful to you!