i love tgirls but i love my gf. what do i do?!?!

Originally Posted by smooth

yea i have a suggestion keep your mouth shut...who knows she may be fine with it....but its all the other ways it may go that is risky. and always have that ace in the hole (what if you break up one day and she decides to spread your little secret around) cover all the bases man

Of course, we all make choices as what we want others to know of ourselves. And it might be difficult in a small town indeed. But just as a matter of reflection, isn’t it the problem we all have in society, not to be able to discuss openly who we are and what our desires are made of? I find it’s the root of the problem. We should all be more open, we should be able to discuss around us, and especially with people we know, of such subjects as sexuality and sense of self. It is by not communicating that we perpetuate intolerance and lack of understanding. If only that “silent majority” could be a bit more truthful and vocal, things would really change. But unfortunately, we endlessly choose the easy, quiet, undisturbed route of the status quo. Talking, exchanging, teaching are the only way we’re going to get anywhere if we find within ourselves the strength to do it. And I must admit that at times, considering what we see around, it doesn’t raise too much optimism…

Now if someone reveal to his/her loved one secrets of intimate life and that person goes around and betray that trust, it’s not difficult to figure who really has problems. It might also show the fact that such revelations didn’t follow the proper form. You have to respect people’s sense of propriety too; some revelations need to take a gradual, explanatory form to be understood and accepted with some people. Everyone has to use some tact in relations to others. But with such precautions, it is possible, or at the very least it should be, unless you’re facing psychotic maniacs, which does indeed happens…