Loneliness

[JodieTs]

How do you actually get to meet a transsexual woman?

Most Transsexual women meet partners who know our history.
Maybe they knew us before we transitioned.
Maybe they ?read? us
Maybe through work, where gossip outed us.
Though we mostly meet though trans friendly spaces:
be it a tg forum /chat room,
trans club/bar,
or from a group of friends and friends of friends...where the suitor had the heads-up on our past,
or they used to date a friend of ours who is also a Transsexual woman...
And so on.

My man said the easiest way to date a Transsexual woman, is to interact with us on trans boards.
Post on areas of common interest. Avoid sex topics.
See if you click.
Assess which Transsexual women are slightly deranged
and which are very deranged
(Accept that to a degree we are all bonkers)
And private message anyone you find interesting.
Later, suggest phone / social contact.
If later, things move on to friendship and then romance,cool.
My man wooed me for six months after our first meeting before I relented.


Oh, be prepared to put lots of time and ? or $:
Think flights, hotels, food, car rental
Because of our rarity, you will probably have to put a lot of effort into travel and resulting costs.
My man lives 1400 miles from me,
Yep, he had to go that far just to meet for an afternoon, to see if we would be friends. He combined the trip with some work stuff.

[JodieTs]

Which is all very interesting
but of no use to you at all.

Firstly, a person chasing us coz we are trans is not very positive for us.
We generally like to forget about all that stuff.

Also, most partners leave us after we have SRS.
That makes us ultra cautious both for casual social stuff through to potential full blown dating.

ok, stay with me...
Assuming that you meet one of more trans women,
and get on for more than the fact they have a penis
{fuck, don't mention that!}
and maybe wanna hang out.
WHAT CAN YOU BRING TO THE PARTY?
Most trans women would run a mile from you
based on your current state of mind.
Many of us have had deep psychological problems and a very high % of attempted suicides.
{The successful suicides don't date any more}

Your self description would have us all totally avoiding you
as to interact may well take us back to bad places.
We don't want to hang out with someone who may be suicidal;
it might trigger us as well!

Stop obsessing about trans.
If trans is the only fact applicable to you dating,
then you are obsessing.
And that is scary.
Sort yourself out first

Talk to your doctor, talk this through.
Ask to be referred to a psychiatrist.
Fix whatever needs fixing.

Dating anyone at all will not fix you.
Your doc can help.


There you go, not bad for constructive stuff on a trans sex forum.
Ok now, back on track...
Do you want to see a photo of my big erect penis?