Finding a shemale partner

[racquel]

That's interesting. I have Gender Identity Disorder, Social Dysphoria, or Asperger Syndrome depending on who you ask. I do tend to hyper-focus, and when people are nice to me it's hard for me not to say inappropriate things because I'm too comfortable. But I'd much rather be friends with someone with those issues than someone who's bipolar or has Borderline Personality Disorder. Although I do have some bipolar friends who are fun to party with.

[Vanillas]

Several months ago I watched a video featuring a group of transgender women involved in a production of "The Vagina Monologues." As I recall only the director was a genetic woman. Some of these women referred to themselves as pre-op and others stated that they had no intention of SRS. Two things struck me about the group as a whole. The first was the bonding that developed among them over their time together, from initial rehearsal to final production. They shared stories and experiences, some of which were inserted into the script, that served to break through much of the isolation and feelings of separateness they may have previously felt. The second was how "normal" their social and dating lives were. Perhaps I'm remembering this in contrast to my more recent exposure to this and similar sites. Still, I sensed that they were not limiting themselves to "tranny seekers," indeed, if they were involved with any at all. Rather, from the way they discussed how and when to disclose - to a new man in their lives - that they were transexuals, I got the distinct impression that they were fully involved in the real world.

Remembering this, I'm wondering about the role of serendipity in meeting an eligible transexual woman. Perhaps I am being too naive or too romantic here but, I feel there is a place for it. I'm beginning to believe that frantic and compulsive attempts to (ostensibly) meet T-women may well be counter-productive. In fact, I'm not so sure that they might not be a form of self-sabotage and a sure way NOT to meet such a woman - or ANY woman. I'm wondering if it wouldn't be better to go to places or events where T-women are likely to be (after all, sometimes even serendipity needs a little coaxing) but to relax and let go of expectations. Ask someone to dance but don't expect her to fry you eggs the next morning. After all, that is how it usually works in the world.

[cheersm8]

A few years ago, I went through a phase of really wanting to date a ts and have a relationship, as opposed to a brief 'sexual fling for kicks'. I made my plan, followed it through and ended up having a bf/gf relationship with a wicked and wild ts from up north. Our relationship lasted around 3 months, then we split up without animosity, for no particular reason other than things had run their course, much like many relationships.
The girl in question has now had srs and is happily married which is way cool.
I had a great 3 months, all positive, with no misgivings or regrets. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that if you desire a relationship with a ts but have to complain that you 'can't find one' then your heart is not really in the goal.

[twistseeker]

I think I am in love with Racquel, well I am at least a fan. I wish I were close enough to Ohio so I could meet you.

Throwing my support your way, I am with you, Racquel.

Take care,

Alex

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by racquel

I have Gender Identity Disorder, Social Dysphoria, or Asperger Syndrome depending on who you ask...

You have absolutely NO disorders, dysphorias or otherwise hetero determined syndromes. You're just a completely normal and healthy and well-spoken transsexual woman.

H