Femboy to Translady

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by Arthur

Great post about the vunerability of TS women.

How do the females view you? Do you have male friends ? What do you do during the average day ?

Do the ladies out there like to be called TS/Transexual/Shemale/Ladyboy whats the preference as sometimes it almost seems like I might being slightly insulting ?

I have lots of male and bio-female friends as well as Trans* male and female friends. All of them know my status and treat me like.. well .. a friend.

An average day starts with me waking up far earlier than I want, getting ready for work, taking a bus to the job, doing research and writing for my company, bussing back home, playing video games or reading a book, talking a little to my fella, sending some email and then taking a shower and going to bed. Not very sexy I know...

I'm not a fan of Shemale or Ladyboy. Shemale has a really nasty history (Google Janice Raymond + Shemale) and Ladyboy is a term for Trans*women from Thailand - as a white woman, it would be inappropriate for that term to be used. It is also mostly used by Westerners for Trans Thai prostiutes. So, I a big fan of being called by my name, barring that Transgendered is swell.

[ila]

Originally Posted by Bionca

So, I a big fan of being called by my name, barring that Transgendered is swell.

Actually Bionca I would rather refer to you as a woman or a gal and call you by your name.

[Arthur]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I have lots of male and bio-female friends as well as Trans* male and female friends. All of them know my status and treat me like.. well .. a friend.

An average day starts with me waking up far earlier than I want, getting ready for work, taking a bus to the job, doing research and writing for my company, bussing back home, playing video games or reading a book, talking a little to my fella, sending some email and then taking a shower and going to bed. Not very sexy I know...

I'm not a fan of Shemale or Ladyboy. Shemale has a really nasty history (Google Janice Raymond + Shemale) and Ladyboy is a term for Trans*women from Thailand - as a white woman, it would be inappropriate for that term to be used. It is also mostly used by Westerners for Trans Thai prostiutes. So, I a big fan of being called by my name, barring that Transgendered is swell.

Thanks for the reply Bionica. So are you planning to lose the male genitals ? or are you happy being a guy, looking like a woman ? If so that would make you a gay guy who likes to look feminine......is that more of a statement/lifestyle choice with little to do with sexuality?

I read parts of the Blog. It's strange because it almost reads like outlaw culture.......in a sense it used to be the same if you rode a motorcycle......something I enjoyed because it was fun and exciting, others saw it as a threat.

I think I should really open another thread in the proper place as this is off topic.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by Arthur

Thanks for the reply Bionica. So are you planning to lose the male genitals ? or are you happy being a guy, looking like a woman ? If so that would make you a gay guy who likes to look feminine......is that more of a statement/lifestyle choice with little to do with sexuality?

I read parts of the Blog. It's strange because it almost reads like outlaw culture.......in a sense it used to be the same if you rode a motorcycle......something I enjoyed because it was fun and exciting, others saw it as a threat.

I think I should really open another thread in the proper place as this is off topic.

I'm not getting rid of the penis. Not because it is particularly importat, but because it is just not at all important to me. The surgery is expensive, and IMO not needed because having a vagina won't make me feel any more of a woman. My identity is not contained in my pants, so having an expensive, potentially disasterous surgery just seems like a silly waste of time.

I'm not a "gay guy who looks feminine".

[Arthur]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I'm not getting rid of the penis. Not because it is particularly importat, but because it is just not at all important to me. The surgery is expensive, and IMO not needed because having a vagina won't make me feel any more of a woman. My identity is not contained in my pants, so having an expensive, potentially disasterous surgery just seems like a silly waste of time.

I'm not a "gay guy who looks feminine".

Right, that makes things slightly clearer. The risk for removal is too high compared to the limited nuisance. So getting a bit more personal, do you use your Penis for sex, or just consider it a bit of floppy, useless skin ?

I suppose this is where the complexities begin to emerge. Women have clitoris, which is erectile tissue and sensitive. So a Penis could be considered a big Clitoris. Your post has me thinking that a biological woman might be quite happy to have a Penis ? and then I begin wondering that if it boils down to the pure physical act of sex, is penetration in the Vagina any different from Anal ?

So, infact a woman with a Penis makes perfect sense. It's really just the mental position on gender.

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I'm not getting rid of the penis. Not because it is particularly importat, but because it is just not at all important to me. The surgery is expensive, and IMO not needed because having a vagina won't make me feel any more of a woman. My identity is not contained in my pants, so having an expensive, potentially disasterous surgery just seems like a silly waste of time.

I'm not a "gay guy who looks feminine".

That's my girl! Be the strong, highly talented person you are! Love you totally!

H

[horny sissy]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I'm not getting rid of the penis. Not because it is particularly importat, but because it is just not at all important to me. The surgery is expensive, and IMO not needed because having a vagina won't make me feel any more of a woman. My identity is not contained in my pants, so having an expensive, potentially disasterous surgery just seems like a silly waste of time.

I'm not a "gay guy who looks feminine".

its the irony of our life, people never try to understand who we are, they just try to fit us in their stereotypical dogmas...

[raconteur]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I'm not a fan of Shemale or Ladyboy. Shemale has a really nasty history (Google Janice Raymond + Shemale) and Ladyboy is a term for Trans*women from Thailand - as a white woman, it would be inappropriate for that term to be used. It is also mostly used by Westerners for Trans Thai prostiutes. So, I a big fan of being called by my name, barring that Transgendered is swell.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us ... I, for one, am grateful to learn. I have no TV/TS friends and all I know is what I read. So, please excuse my ignorance and lack of real world experience! Please don't take offence to anything I type. Just reply and set me on the right course!

In Brazil, they use the Portuguese word "boneca" to describe mtf TS's. Boneca translates to "doll" in English. (it can also translate to dolly, puppet, poppet, dummy and poppet-valve)

I like to think of lovely TS's as Dolls -- being a beautiful Lady, above just girls, almost angelic, with a special surprise.

In some cultures (e.g.Thailand) a reference is made to the third sex.

Do you think "Doll" is acceptable?

I thought the blond "femboy" look of Jennifer Zack was my perfect Doll. If she was my friend, I'd have tried to talk her out of getting bolt-ons and dark hair (she might have chnged my mind, of course). What does that say about me?

Anyway, just some thoughts. Be kind if you reply ...

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by raconteur

In Brazil, they use the Portuguese word "boneca" to describe mtf TS's. Boneca translates to "doll" in English. (it can also translate to dolly, puppet, poppet, dummy and poppet-valve)

I like to think of lovely TS's as Dolls -- being a beautiful Lady, above just girls, almost angelic, with a special surprise.

In some cultures (e.g.Thailand) a reference is made to the third sex.

Do you think "Doll" is acceptable?

I thought the blond "femboy" look of Jennifer Zack was my perfect Doll. If she was my friend, I'd have tried to talk her out of getting bolt-ons and dark hair (she might have chnged my mind, of course). What does that say about me?

Anyway, just some thoughts. Be kind if you reply ...

Since I'm not Brazilian, I can't really answer if it is respectful or not. It depends on how it is used. "Doll" in English can be sweet and give an impression of something special and precious, but it can also be insulting and dismissive. For example"

"She's such a doll" - Not bad, sounds affectionate
"Listen doll, I need you to get those reports" - Not so great. It's dismissive and insulting.

It is all about how words are used in general context.

Jennifer Zack's hair color and boob changes and your opinions of them really don't say anything more about you than what you prefer people to look like. Everyone have opinions and attractions, and friends offer that sort of advice all the time for a variety of reasons - some selfish and some out of genuine desire to help.