Tgirl Etiquette

[hankhavelock]

GRH, absolutely - the terms "ladyboy" and "shemale" should be used with caution. I rarely use them - instead I prefer transsexual or transgendered or ts or tg. However, in Asia, where I live, the terms are not considered quite as antagonizing as in the West. Here trans woman will happily refer to themselves as ladyboys or shemales.

So again it's a matter of feeling you way in and use the right lingo for the occasion :-)

[Bionca]

Yeah use "Shemale" at your own risk... I know I'd probably think twice about going out with a guy who used that word too much.

It's from porn, and porn is all good, but would you honestly walk up to an attractive woman in her 40's and call her a MILF? Or drop that in casual conversation around her? "Hey guys this is my MILF date." "I'd like to introduce you to Mary, she's a MILF".

Probably the universal faux pas in dating a TG is to use the wrong pronouns. Even escorts who advertise as "shemales" will show you the door if you call her "he". I've heard stories of guys in Thailand who wouldn't stop calling their LBs by male pronouns. Not only were they treated very coldly by every LB they met for the rest of their vacation, they had a couple of LBs who were so offended that they harassed the guy every time they saw him on the street.

[vibesfan]

I think that the best thing to do in all cases is to treat shemales as women and refer to them as women. This is a very important part of their transformation process and I think you'll find that you have a much happier lady as a result.

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by vibesfan

I think that the best thing to do in all cases is to treat shemales as women and refer to them as women. This is a very important part of their transformation process and I think you'll find that you have a much happier lady as a result.

They ARE women... how could I treat them any differently???

[sesame]

Ok, ok.
I get your point. But every Tg must come to terms with the male part of herself, at some point along the journey. Are not the terms Trans-sexual, Trans-gender also expressing something of gender-transfer?
I know Lady-boy or She-male or Fem-boy are words that remind a Tg of her being partly male, .. may be in the past . ?

What is the proper term for a Tg then? Girl, woman, just girlfriend? Nobody who wants a relation with a Tg would go ahead and consciously annoy her anyway. That would be a premotivated insult!

[Bionca]

That, my friend is one of the areas where it depends on the woman. Some of us are fully comfortable with our history. Some of us go to amazing lengths to erase it. Some of us are someplace in between.

Some women live part-time as female and need special consideration as to how she should be addressed. It is important for people who date us to be sensitive to these issues - and it can be very confusing for everyone involved.

A good rule of thumb is.. if she looks like a woman address her as a woman. That should also cover Cross Dressers and Drag Queens as well.

[sesame]

Gizmo:

The girl I see when I go to LOS, like's
to be reffered to as she, her name is Jennifer
or rather, the name she give's herself!
But as hank will probably know, these girl's change
their name's like we change sock's!

Why do they juggle with names, I wonder!
Its an amazing insight though.