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[Joebad]

Originally Posted by Bionca

They use as much of the penis as they can. I don't know a ton about the actual procedeure, I figure I'll cross that bridge when and if I come to it.

That is another thing that complicates your situation. If you meet someone who desires you as you are now, will he still desire you if you cross that bridge?

If he really loves you, I guess he will, but that would be a bad time to find out that he is too shallow. Just when you would need love and support the most.

I think that could be a good question to poll the group about. I'm not quite sure how to word it, but the gist would be: If you were find the perfect pre-op transgender woman in real life, would you still desire her post-op?

[sesame]

Every T-girl I know is single

Now that equation looks really sad from here.
May be demography doesnt apply to witty A-graders like Bionca here.
C'mon ladies, cheer up a bit, were not lost in Sahara desert for heaven's sake! We live in a randomly mixed up society with a miscellany of tastes for partners. Random like psychedelic bubbles! So everyone gets their cozy partner sooner or later.

[Bionca]

I must say the Internet has helped form a community where trans-folks and their admirers can meet up. The downside is we are a pretty small and widely spread group of people. I have mede a number of really good friends that I will probably never meet face to face. It's good to know that I'm not alone, but doesn't help the lack of quality dates.

One thing I have noticed, and this could just be my own observation and not anything more....

Guys who seem like they have a good heart and are honest and sincere seem to be located in really rural places. The chances of a cute TG living in Corn City Iowa is pretty pathetically low. Or they have a desire to meet a nice, smart, sweet TG to see where things lead; but find vapid, silly, selfish gals. While the gals who want quality and substance, not a sugar-daddy or one-off experimentation can't seem to find them. I suppose the advice to keep looking is the best.

[sesame]

Yeahhhh,
Far far away...
People with similar interests are often separated by the width of the globe.
But dont let the sadness spread. Just capture it in your heart and linger on.
Life is not about what you dont have, but about what you have achieved.
Rest assured, you have already achieved something.

[sesame]

living in Corn City Iowa

Hmmm,
A lot of people are eagerly noting down that address right now!
Expect a knock on your door soon, girl!:D
May be expect thumps on that heavy door from a dozen suitors.

[Bionca]

Dang.. to bad I don't live in Corn City (don't even know if the place exists). Like all right-thinking T-girls, I'm living in an urban area. Maybe I should visit some small towns while I have some free time.. any suggestions anyone?

[sesame]

Don't let a few jerks discourage you

Thats a very sound advice. If your heart can love, you will find a soulmate, no matter what. ... Because Love always wins.
Bless us loveseekers, O Father who is in Heaven, Amen.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by Joebad

I think that could be a good question to poll the group about. I'm not quite sure how to word it, but the gist would be: If you were find the perfect pre-op transgender woman in real life, would you still desire her post-op?

I think that's a great question, but I wouldn't ask it. I don't think guys would feel comfortable saying "no" if asked by a TG. I'd like to think that we fall in love with people, and we love our partners nomatter how their bodies change.

Realistically, though, sexual attraction is important in a relationship and part of that is desire for your partner's body. I know lots of people who love their partners, but lose sexual interest after they gain weight, get in an accident that scars their face, things like that. They love their partners, and wouldn't leave them, but the desire isn't there. I'd imagine the same would be true for someone who was attracted to pre-op TGs. They may stay in the relationship out of love or loyalty, but maybe the attraction would lessen...

[brianna]

Bionca- You really apear to be a sweet, intelligent & attrative girl. With your outgoing personality, your bound to find the right one. But, as with all of us, we can't know when the right one will cross our path, so in the meantime, be the best person you can be, and be happy and satisfied as a single person until the time comes. So many others have jumped into relationships with the wrong people, and have regretted it.

It may take some time before the transgendered are accepted among the majority of Americans, but it has to get better. Be who you are!

If you're ever in the Miami/Ft Lauderdale area, let me know. Lots of love....

[Bionca]

Miami huh???

Well I do have two options for a job assignment doing outreach and mentoring for runaway GLBT youth in either Miami or L.A. It seems like a good project trying to get the kids off the street and provide them with some living skills - like getting a job, paying bills, balancing a checkbook, as well as showing productive adult role models that they can relate to.

So... I may be in Miami in a couple months (or L.A.)

Also, thanks - I'm actually enjoying being single. I haven't been single since I was 20, so it's just taking some adjustment.

[brianna]

Sounds like very worthwhile work. A chance to have a positive effect on many young people. ... Although I'm turning in now, I'll be keeping an eye on your posts to see what's up. I just joined yesterday, and it seems like an interesting forum. Plenty of guys, but with that comes a lot of guys' thoughts/opinions. 'night...

[sesame]

be the best person you can be, and be happy and satisfied as a single person until the time comes

That is pure wisdom. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with all of us.

[sesame]

I may be in Miami in a couple months (or L.A.)

Ding!!
Luukin Fd 2 eet!!