Why don't you already have a transsexual girlfriend?

[Bionca]

@Jodie - yes, the first few years are pretty messy. We are going through puberty all over again - the only up side is we know what's happening, so we can kinda muddle through with our self respect and most relationships intact.

In many ways the first few years of transition we are equally destroying our old lives while building our new ones. Job, friends, family, relationships... everything is in flux and nothing is certain. Our self-image takes routine beatings as we look kinda awkward and get easily clocked. Our focus is often on saving/making money for surgeries and hormones to the point of obsession (see previous sentence).

While I had a serious relationship with a guy through the first 7 years of my transition, in retrospect I sure wouldn't have dated me.

[Bionca]

@Raquel - everything you said +1.

Guys who don't know I'm trans trying to pick me up are so sweet and pay attention to what I say. they engage me as a person with interests and opinions. Guys in a heavy trans environment make me feel like those interests and opinions are what keeps the cock life support system entertained while they aren't around.

The part about the drink made me laugh because it's true. I sometimes think chasers are either seriously cheap, broke, or think we are so desperate they don't have to do more than show up (sadly I think the latter, sadder still I think we make it easy for them to think this).

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Bionca

@Raquel - everything you said +1.
The part about the drink made me laugh because it's true. I sometimes think chasers are either seriously cheap, broke, or think we are so desperate they don't have to do more than show up

+2
Bionca, you're talking about 'Sippers'
They are the creepy men who buys one pint of beer,
and make it last the whole night, by taking small sips from it.
He never offer to buy you a drink, in fact he hardly makes eye contact
if he does grow the balls to try to start a conversation.
He is more likely to spend his evening on the edges of the room
clocking me and every other trans woman in the joint.

Oh yes, now I remember why I stopped going to tranny bars.