Interest in trans lifestyle waxing and waning

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Originally Posted by Bionca

It sounds like it sucks. I don't have any first hand advice, and I wish I did. It sounds like you and your wife need to have a talk about intimacy. Why are you not having frequent sex? Is your relationship an "open" one? If not, would that be an option?

I would also suggest seeing a therapist. It could be helpful to discuss this, and you will need one anyway if you do decide to transition. Personally, I'd avoid a "Gender specialist" (they charge significant amounts usually and seem to have a vested interest in their patients either transitioning or never transitioning). Just some opinions from someone who isn't trained in anything useful in this case.

There isn't any particular reason lately, just poor timing. She's always sick or on her period or having a long week at work and is exhausted or excuse after excuse. I've been patient for a while, but I'm reaching my wit's end. I've all but given up making moves because I don't want to get angry if I'm shut down.

I have no interest in making the transition as I thoroughly enjoy my male life. I just like to take a dip in the female pool every once in a while, more so lately given the circumstances.