Tgirl Etiquette

[hankhavelock]

Political correct terms are defined by the environment... words like "ladyboy" and "shemale" may in the West be considered "pornographic". Here in Asia they are used much more loosely.

But the truly correct terms are: TRANSGENDER in a broader sense (covering both transvestites and transsexuals), TRANSVESTITE/CROSSDRESSER for a guy who occasionally dresses up like a woman (this includes DRAG), and TRANSSEXUAL for people who live full-time and identify as the opposite sex of their genetic sex.

It's a bit simplified but pretty much to the point.

There are probably as many definitions of transgenderism as there are transgender people and there really are no strict namings. So it's complicated.

In general it's important to understand that there is difference between SEXUAL ORIENTATION and GENDER IDENTIFICATION. But that's a whole other matter that I better not get into now :-)

Peace!

Hank

[tlover]

No wonder i'm confused

[gizmo]

The girl I see when I go to LOS, like's
to be reffered to as she, her name is Jennifer
or rather, the name she give's herself!


But as hank will probably know, these girl's change
their name's like we change sock's!:D
And as hank say's, the term LB is
commonly used in Thailand.

When I met her first time, I told her she was a pretty girl
she replied" I not girl, I ladyboy! So just go with the flow!

[tlover]

Originally Posted by gizmo

The girl I see when I go to LOS, like's
to be reffered to as she, her name is Jennifer
or rather, the name she give's herself!


But as hank will probably know, these girl's change
their name's like we change sock's!:D
And as hank say's, the term LB is
commonly used in Thailand.

When I met her first time, I told her she was a pretty girl
she replied" I not girl, I ladyboy! So just go with the flow!

Blimey these tgirls don't sound too easy going mate.

[Mirabeau915]

I have met only one bonefide transexual* during a conference and I referred to her with proper pronouns (such as "her") and used "dear" when I felt it was appropriate (as in "let me get that door for you dear") just as I would a "genetic woman" who was younger than myself.

It takes a lot of work and a lot of confidence to make that transformation, far be it from me to ignore that effort. I have always felt that a pronoun and some curtesy is a small thing compared to the troubles that a transgendered individual might have.

And I ignored the whole transexual issue altogether. She did not say anything about it, and I did nothing to indicate I knew any better. In fact, I acted no differently around her, I flirted with her just as much as the other gals.

*I'm not counting the genetic man who was in the middle of the process and wearing and living as a female with no alterations yet. The same as the rest of this post went for her.

[Ogryn1313]

So you give them the same gifts you'd give a genetic female eh? Well shit.
I'm bad at gift giving.
See, when you give a person a gift you always give them either something they will like or something they can use. That's why granny gives you a pack of socks for Christmas for example.
So me, I'd have no problems giving a chick a wholesale sized box of tampons for a present. Probably not a good idea with a ladyboy!

Sheesh...even by my standards that joke was lame.

I've never met a tgirl but common sense always told me if you met one you should be respectful, don't make a big deal out of uniqueness, and just play it cool. Honestly though, I am terrifed of genetic women and suck horribly at the flirting and such. I would imagine it would be even more frightening and the pressure intense with a tgirl. Or are they, in general, much easier to approach?

[tlover]

Originally Posted by Ogryn1313

So you give them the same gifts you'd give a genetic female eh? Well shit.
I'm bad at gift giving.
See, when you give a person a gift you always give them either something they will like or something they can use. That's why granny gives you a pack of socks for Christmas for example.
So me, I'd have no problems giving a chick a wholesale sized box of tampons for a present. Probably not a good idea with a ladyboy!

Sheesh...even by my standards that joke was lame.

I've never met a tgirl but common sense always told me if you met one you should be respectful, don't make a big deal out of uniqueness, and just play it cool. Honestly though, I am terrifed of genetic women and suck horribly at the flirting and such. I would imagine it would be even more frightening and the pressure intense with a tgirl. Or are they, in general, much easier to approach?

Well common sense told me pretty much the same thing, treat her like a lady don't go on about her sexuality etc, but i just wanted to be sure, and was hoping to be enlightened with some of the finer points of tgirl dating for all of us tgirl virgins.
But obviously iv just come across as totally ignorant and thick.. never mind.