Two part question for t-girls and admirers alike.

Originally Posted by smc

First off, I hate the term "admirer." I think it has come to mean something that does not reflect who I am.

Well for most trans women I know... Admirer's are good... Chasers are bad.

But thankx for chiming in. (would have like a more in depth response though, coming from a professor )

Though I've known you to be a very knowledgeable and respectful guy from the first time I started posting here.

[smc]

Originally Posted by ThirdEyeGirl

Well for most trans women I know... Admirer's are good... Chasers are bad.

But thankx for chiming in. (would have like a more in depth response though, coming from a professor )

Though I've known you to be a very knowledgeable and respectful guy from the first time I started posting here.

I appreciate the compliment. And I will give you the more in-depth response you say you would have liked.

Regarding the point about "admirer," I think it's not the "admirer" part so much as the combination of the term when used the same way "tranny chaser" is used. The fact is that I guess I do admire the guts and tenacity it takes to make a transition. I am, in fact, in awe of my trans friends.

I guess I just don't want to be pigeonholed by the fact that I have a particularly strong sexual attraction to trans women. I am most definitely not a "chaser," and I have had that confirmed by my trans women friends who have assured me that they do not see me exhibiting any "chaser" behavior. So, I guess I can live with being tagged an "admirer," even if I don't do so myself.

As for the attraction, I can elaborate a bit (and please pardon what may seem like some generalization; I am speaking only of my direct experience). I have always, since my pre-teen years, had stronger friendships with women than with men. I have a very small number of male friends. I have quite a few very good female friends. As I have gotten to know some trans women quite well, I have simply found that the time I spend with them tends to be the most enjoyable and easy-going (other than, of course, the fact that the position society puts them in tends to create some angst and anxiety that isn't always the most fun to be around).

My trans women friends are the ones with whom I can talk about anything. They understand some of the things my cis-women friends do not (generally speaking, again), and bring their women's perspective to discussions in a way that is ... for want of a better word ... special.

I'll forego elaborating on the sexual attraction.

Originally Posted by smc

As for the attraction, I can elaborate a bit (and please pardon what may seem like some generalization; I am speaking only of my direct experience). I have always, since my pre-teen years, had stronger friendships with women than with men. I have a very small number of male friends. I have quite a few very good female friends. As I have gotten to know some trans women quite well, I have simply found that the time I spend with them tends to be the most enjoyable and easy-going (other than, of course, the fact that the position society puts them in tends to create some angst and anxiety that isn't always the most fun to be around).

My trans women friends are the ones with whom I can talk about anything. They understand some of the things my cis-women friends do not (generally speaking, again), and bring their women's perspective to discussions in a way that is ... for want of a better word ... special..

Well yeah... cause (generally speaking as well) we have the misfortune of experiencing how both think and feel in relation to hormones. Witch oddly enough have a profound coloration with how one thinks, feels, and reacts.

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Originally Posted by ThirdEyeGirl

Well yeah... cause (generally speaking as well) we have the misfortune of experiencing how both think and feel in relation to hormones. Witch oddly enough have a profound coloration with how one thinks, feels, and reacts.

I do understand the WHY behind what I wrote.

My trans women friends have told me that I'm a good guy to be around when they need some sound advice, a sanity check, a good listener who keeps quiet, a shoulder to cry on, or any combination thereof. That confidence warms my heart the way great friendships should.

Originally Posted by smc

I do understand the WHY behind what I wrote.

My trans women friends have told me that I'm a good guy to be around when they need some sound advice, a sanity check, a good listener who keeps quiet, a shoulder to cry on, or any combination thereof. That confidence warms my heart the way great friendships should.

Wasn't suggesting you didn't know the WHY. Was just stating it for the people that may have questions when they come along.

One of my friends that I linked this post to... Pointed out one typo I didn't even notice till she told me.

K: Miranda
K: you have the most AWESOME and AWKWARD typo EVER
K: "But I prefer slow and genital most of the time."? Really??
K: Only found it because of the penis one or two lines above it
K: God knows what other hilarious mistypings you may have

I have dyslexia and ADHD and a few others that I don't even think have a name yet.

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Originally Posted by ThirdEyeGirl

One of my friends that I linked this post to... Pointed out one typo I didn't even notice till she told me.

K: Miranda
K: you have the most AWESOME and AWKWARD typo EVER
K: "But I prefer slow and genital most of the time."? Really??
K: Only found it because of the penis one or two lines above it
K: God knows what other hilarious mistypings you may have

I have dyslexia and ADHD and a few others that I don't even think have a name yet.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. We've all made typos before(I generally make them when I'm tired).

And I would also like to thank you for creating this thread.

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Originally Posted by ThirdEyeGirl

Wasn't suggesting you didn't know the WHY. Was just stating it for the people that may have questions when they come along.

I'm sorry; I didn't mean to imply that you were suggesting that. I simply take a great deal of personal pride in having achieved a level of understanding (without pretending that I don't have a very long way to go) that earns the respect of my trans friends.

@SMC... I know your a mod and all... but your always quick on the draw... what gives?

Not complaining... gives me someone to chat with who has a different perspective than my OL friends.