Interest in trans lifestyle waxing and waning

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by valentinetabitha

You pretty much hit the nail on the head. I started exploring this side of me after going a good six months without any sexual contact. I've been curious about it since I was about 16, but I didn't start getting serious about it until about a year ago.

What worries me is that I'm reaching a point of no return. While I understand we all have to make that choice eventually, I know I'm not ready for that and more importantly I know my marriage can't handle it. Perhaps I'm fortunate in that I'm bisexual and can deal with just one side of me for a while. Then again, like you said, if I go extended periods of time with no contact, I'm right back at square one.

This. sucks.

It sounds like it sucks. I don't have any first hand advice, and I wish I did. It sounds like you and your wife need to have a talk about intimacy. Why are you not having frequent sex? Is your relationship an "open" one? If not, would that be an option?

I would also suggest seeing a therapist. It could be helpful to discuss this, and you will need one anyway if you do decide to transition. Personally, I'd avoid a "Gender specialist" (they charge significant amounts usually and seem to have a vested interest in their patients either transitioning or never transitioning). Just some opinions from someone who isn't trained in anything useful in this case.