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racquel · #1 05-26-2009

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I don't know if it's because it was illegal (prostitution), because I was cheating on her (unfaithful), or because I can't say I'm totally straight anymore (cock in my mouth). I don't know how to tell my girlfriend. She knows I look at porn, but she doesn't know I look at TS porn-no one does.

> Regrets About Gay Experience

I guess it's good to see someone honestly put those feelings in writing. The major problem I see is:

- The guy is homophobic.

- The guy is stupid. He's a straight guy with a girlfriend, and he's had no problem looking at TS porn for two years. If it made him feel so guilty to actually do it then I'm sure he felt some of that guilty simply from constantly masturbating to TS porn. He should've known better.

- Obviously the only thing he should really be feeling guilty about is cheating on his girlfriend!

- What's this about "I don't know how to tell my girlfriend"? This is another example of someone using the excuse of "trying to be honest" to make himself feel less guilty. Telling his girlfriend will just make her feel bad, and it will probably end the relationship. If he wants to end the relationship he should just end it. If he wants to stay with his girlfriend he's going to have to live with the guilt of cheating on her for the rest of his life. How to tell her isn't his biggest problem. It isn't even close. It would probably be best to never tell her, but he's just a wimp who wants to make himself feel better.

What I find really disturbing is that we have a guy who's totally fixated on having a cock in his mouth. For all I know he actually is gay and he just has so much self-loathing that he can't admit it. You spend most of your spare time staring at a cock on your computer screen while jerking your own cock with your hand. Who cares if you actually had a cock in your mouth for a minute while giving some poor hooker the worst blowjob of her life?

hankhavelock · #2 05-26-2009

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Originally Posted by racquel

I guess it's good to see someone honestly put those feelings in writing. The major problem I see is:

- The guy is homophobic.

- The guy is stupid. He's a straight guy with a girlfriend, and he's had no problem looking at TS porn for two years. If it made him feel so guilty to actually do it then I'm sure he felt some of that guilty simply from constantly masturbating to TS porn. He should've known better.

- Obviously the only thing he should really be feeling guilty about is cheating on his girlfriend!

- What's this about "I don't know how to tell my girlfriend"? This is another example of someone using the excuse of "trying to be honest" to make himself feel less guilty. Telling his girlfriend will just make her feel bad, and it will probably end the relationship. If he wants to end the relationship he should just end it. If he wants to stay with his girlfriend he's going to have to live with the guilt of cheating on her for the rest of his life. How to tell her isn't his biggest problem. It isn't even close. It would probably be best to never tell her, but he's just a wimp who wants to make himself feel better.

What I find really disturbing is that we have a guy who's totally fixated on having a cock in his mouth. For all I know he actually is gay and he just has so much self-loathing that he can't admit it. You spend most of your spare time staring at a cock on your computer screen while jerking your own cock with your hand. Who cares if you actually had a cock in your mouth for a minute while giving some poor hooker the worst blowjob of her life?

I think you're being a little bit harsh now, Raquel... personally I never really cared much about what ever labels folks wanted to pin on me (they did it anyway and keep doing it), but I never really thought that being in love with a female penis is particularly "gay". It may have some degree of bisexuality in it, I really don't know, but the fact remains that a guy should be allowed to enjoy his woman's good penis without being harrassed... ;-)

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racquel · #3 05-26-2009

I didn't mean it was gay. My point is that actually being with a TS hooker certainly isn't any more gay than looking at shemale porn and masturbating every day for two years. If he didn't feel bad about all that porn then why did he freak out about the hooker? How can a guy who stares at cock and touches his cock every day have such a revulsion towards cock?

hankhavelock · #4 05-26-2009

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Originally Posted by racquel

I didn't mean it was gay. My point is that actually being with a TS hooker certainly isn't any more gay than looking at shemale porn and masturbating every day for two years. If he didn't feel bad about all that porn then why did he freak out about the hooker? How can a guy who stares at cock and touches his cock every day have such a revulsion towards cock?

Dear, I agree with you totally... I was merely trying to be a bit funny... I guess I ain't a succesful comedian :-(

But seriously, I have no idea, what's truly going on in guys' minds. In many ways I have always found it easier to get a glimpse of sanity from what's going on in the transsexual mind and I guess that's why I prefer transsexual friends... because they seem to be more logical in that special Asian emotional way that I adore so completely and that has beecome part of my own mindset.

As you said somewhere above, the fascination of cock is apparently a problem for most men. The question of being gay returns constantly, and I guess it always will. Neither you nor I can really do much more (which is important enough) than explaining the mechanisms of gender-orientation versus sexual orientation and patiently repeat the facts of all these COMPLICATED matters.

It's repetitive and tirering, but I guess it's necessary.

The gays have spent 40 years making their case - all we can do now is to start making a worthy trans*case...

randolph · #5 05-26-2009

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Originally Posted by hankhavelock

Dear, I agree with you totally... I was merely trying to be a bit funny... I guess I ain't a succesful comedian :-(

But seriously, I have no idea, what's truly going on in guys' minds. In many ways I have always found it easier to get a glimpse of sanity from what's going on in the transsexual mind and I guess that's why I prefer transsexual friends... because they seem to be more logical in that special Asian emotional way that I adore so completely and that has beecome part of my own mindset.

As you said somewhere above, the fascination of cock is apparently a problem for most men. The question of being gay returns constantly, and I guess it always will. Neither you nor I can really do much more (which is important enough) than explaining the mechanisms of gender-orientation versus sexual orientation and patiently repeat the facts of all these COMPLICATED matters.

It's repetitive and tirering, but I guess it's necessary.

The gays have spent 40 years making their case - all we can do now is to start making a worthy trans*case...

Well Hank, I have to agree, The male mind has some interesting wiring. I have no interest in "male" cock (other than my own) but when it becomes a "female" cock on a transsexual it becomes incredibly desirable. I guess we have an innate desire to suck something, especially if its female.