Taking a Plunge

[CreativeMind]

Maybe it's just the die-hard romantic in me, but I don't see why some of you seem so sour on this latest news, or on Bionca's guy.

I mean, Franalexes outright called him an asshole ("Sure, this asshole will be nice as long as he gets what he wants for free. Bionca, you have been used and abused by too many for too long. Break away girl, break away" ) and New Believer even questioned his motives ("The rent is cheap, the option of sex could be on the menu, and all while he'll be looking out to where and who he could be with next. I believe that if he had the option with someone else, he'd go for it." )

BUT...I would remind everyone here that Bionca's guy has taken her out in public, he's had no problem being seen with her in public or being on dates with her. Heck, it was just a few months ago that he stepped up to the plate and took her to her own company Christmas party, when she thought he might not. So, to give the guy SOME credit, he seems to be trying.

As for him breaking up last year -- when he said he was ""getting too serious" about Bionca and pulled back -- I'm going to throw this out there: maybe that really IS how he felt and he was just confused. NOT about her TS status or anything like that. His actions show he's essentially past that. So you know what? To sort of stand up for the guy, maybe back then he genuinely WAS just trying to figure out how committed he wanted to be with ANYONE at that point in time. Which means it wasn't about Bionca. The guy could have been dating ANYONE and still felt the same way. So, it really was about him coming to terms with what HE was looking for.

I mean, come on, we've ALL been there, right? You're telling me that none of you have ever been in a relationship where you just weren't sure how strongly you felt about the other person? That for various reasons, you found yourself questioning all sorts of things, so you started to act half-hearted about the relationship overall and just felt like you were emotionally adrift? At which point you end things because you really DO need some time to figure things out?

Personally, I can totally understand and appreciate his "I'm getting too serious about you" line and the decision to back off, which in turn always leaves the other person wondering what's going on. Honestly, haven't you ever found yourself in a relationship where you liked the other person more than they seemed to like you back? So you start to back off to protect your own heart? Hey, speaking for myself, I know that feeling exists -- I go through it daily with a certain ex-girlfriend of mine, where we do a constant dance around each other over "how much" we still love and care about each other. Which is certainly headache inducing since right now she's living with another guy, but still talks to me and constantly leaves me warm, romantic messages guaranteed to screw with my head continually. Speaking as a guy often baffled by romance: go figure!

ANYWAY...the way I see it, this will be a great chance for Bionca and her guy to be together and to see how close they can actually be, in terms of taking things up a notch long term. Hey, if nothing else it will be an all-new test in patience. Bionca will now find out just how much it irritates her when her fella leaves the cap off the toothpaste!