Taking a Plunge

[Bionca]

CM, thanks for this post. The thing is, neither Dustin nor I were really looking for anything serious when we met. He was still in the middle of a break up and I pretty much gave up on guys having any sort of honest intentions. I was disappointed when he had his issues to be sure. After all it was just another guy who couldn't handle being attracted to me as a person, not just a kinky curiosity.

The difference is - he came back. He actually thought through his fears and got some advice from his brother, read a book, and tried to work out his feelings. He's apologized to me and is taking things as slowly as I want.

He has his faults (so do I). He is trying though. For me, this is the first time in almost 2 years that I am guaranteed that my date will actually be at the movies when I get there. He hasn't ditched me to talk to my (more attractive) trans* friends. He doesn't insist that I only see him at night and swing 'round the back (or wait outside until he gets a good look at me first).

[CreativeMind]

Originally Posted by Bionca

CM, thanks for this post.

You're welcome.
And good luck - we're all rooting for you.

Originally Posted by Bionca

He has his faults (so do I).

OH HO! So now the REAL truth comes out!
Disregard what I said at the end of my last post!!
Turns out BIONCA is the one who leaves the cap off the toothpaste, not him!!!

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

CM, thanks for this post...

I agree... CM, you're right, we tend to be so f****** pessimistic....

I think it sounds swell, Mizzy B. I'm totally jealous, of course, but jealous in a good way, baby! Remember, not everybody is a HankyPanky who just said: "Ok, so gorgeous, my girl is a tranny..." Most guys have to learn to live with their own damn inner self first. Don't ask me why!

But if he is good to you, respects you, adores you, loves you, kisses you, holds your hand (in public), touches your little ladyboy ass (in public too), opens the doors for you, lights your cigarette (you probably don't smoke), pours your wine... and generally just shows his deep emotions for you, then move on, baby!

If he also blows you empty and in general believes that real women have cocks, THEN you're home free! :-)

I wish you all, all, all the best, darling, with that new bf of yours!

Megatons of kisses!

H

[merelypink]

you can be my roomie

[Titivilus]

So, I haven't seen an update in a bit, and now I'm curious.

Merelypink, having read through some of your posts, you seem to have a sensible head on your shoulders. Having said that, I know very well how little that applies when attraction strikes.

To be honest, my first reaction was the same as most. I immediately determined that this guy is not ready to have you in his life in any kind of serious way.

After reading additional posts, however, I waffled a bit. There were many good points made, most specifically that he isn't afraid to appear in public with you.

But then I looked at your avatar. If that pic is actually YOU, then I can't imagine ANYONE being bothered by having you draped over their arm. So, that got me thinking again.

What I eventually concluded (and please, I don't know you in the slightest, speaking out of my proverbial asshole here), is that he MIGHT be the "right one", but perhaps he's just not there yet. I've been down that road myself, and it's quite a grey area.

The other big elephant in the room is that YOUR instincts flagged the situation with red, and in the end, I tend to trust instincts. Nature did provide the tools, after all, and we should definitely pay attention.

So, ultimately, I'm very curious as to the outcome.

How are things at this point?

[merelypink]

hope it all goes well

[shadows]

Originally Posted by merelypink

hope it all goes well

You know, it would be really nice if you would actually check the date of a thread before you make a post. You know as well as I what has happened recently(considering how you POSTED in that freaking thread before it was deleted!!!) and I am sure Bionca doesn't need this rehashed again.