Taking a Plunge

[tslust]

I hope everything goes alright for you, Bionca.

[new believer]

As usual your soulmate (?) Fran came up with the correct flags. Why would someone decide to return ? He wanted to 'chill', needed to 'sort things out'. RIIIIIGHT.With probably no one else to turn to, and knowing you as he does,kind hearted and once smittin with him,of course he'll come back. The rent is cheap, the option of sex could be on the menu, and all while he'll be looking out to where and who he could be with next.
I believe that if he had the option with someone else ,he'd go for it.
True, most of us don't know all the fine details, but most of us have been around the block, so to speak.
I'm sorry to say that I often find people with gall, have an easy time at taking advantage of others when neccessary. He has a neccessity.
Only you can make that decision which will make your life the best it can be.
I only hope you can get through this without injury of ANY kind. Please let others know of threats, arguments, things said in anger or without forethought. You may even want to keep a tape recorder of some conversations. Horrible life to live like that isn't it? But remember the advice you gave to others. And don't ever forget what has happened to others you have never met. I'm sure he'll get wind of the advice you are getting and he will try to disuade you. If he's sincere, he'll pick up and leave on his own. Once he's settled(at least six months after) with work,a place of his own and his 'thoughts' together once again, then see if he comes around as a beau or jackass.
Sorry if you did not want to hear that, but I've seen it done before to both sexes. Good luck and practice safe living.

[Vanillas]

My initial reaction to reading of your dilemma was to question how any man could possibly have reservations about wanting to be with someone as intelligent and beautiful as you. But of course to many men, these qualities in a woman can be as threatening as they are enticing. But regardless of the reasons for his hot and cold behavior, it seems to have resonated in you, creating some doubt and conflict of your own. And, judging from some of the previous posts, from people who evidently know you well, perhaps they should heeded.

I do not know you and won't presume to give you advice (and after all, isn't SOME amount of relationship ambivalence existential and even healthy?). But I will offer one caveat: IF this man does take up residence in your house, I suggest you first familiarize yourself with basic Landlord/Tenant law in your area. I live in San Francisco, Ca. It is a city with a strong Tenants' Board and a generally pro-tenant Rental Code. It is not uncommon for a homeowner to have to take a tenant to court simply because he no longer wants to rent out part part of his house - and the tenant refuses to move. In this city at least, once a tenant has been living in a place for even a short time, many of his rights trump those of the homeowner. And the way you described that little area with its own bathroom, it sounded mighty comfortable.

Regardless of what you do I wish you the very best. I think you deserve nothing less. I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts and admire your insights and your writing style. Finally, I'm glad you enjoyed my satirical post Re: a Shemale Circus. But how else can you answer such a question? I mean two T-Girls, each other, at the same time?!

[quickpick]

I think you're apprehensive because you already figured out the reasons. You've listed them all for a good reason. So in light of that, I think you know the answer. But when dealing with emotions, logic is often thrown out the window. So not to sound like a complete pessimist, but you should probably listen to your head on this one and not your heart. Just my 2 cents.

[Bionca]

He has finally moved in. We'll see how this goes... he did drop the word "girl-friend" during conversation....

[franalexes]

Shortcuts to relationships usually end as short relationships.
Just an observation.
I don't jump of the cliff for "the plunge". Don't read anything into that. It's not meant as something ,something
But DAMN! Guys are still at my feet.