My first time here, and my confusion

[Bionca]

I was doing SW with GLBT runaways in Chicago. We were trying to get funding for a project that would have given job training and some basic life skills training to the kids. Part of our problem was that "reuniting families" was not our main focus, because the families of GLBT runaways rarely wake up and get it, fostercare and other youth groups send kids back into places where mummy and daddy smiled for the judge and then shipped little suzie off to church camp for some aversion therapy. Or they just continued to make the kids' lives hell.

We were trying to give kids the skills to step over the cracks in the system so that they could navigate being without a support system regardless of the presence of their parents. With funding evaporating, I was left with a job in children's services - and that my dear is a job that will rot your soul from the inside out.

So I'm not doing SW for a job, rather putting I skills to use for various organizations after work. Stay in Acadamae.. it's icky out here

[Phenom99]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I was doing SW with GLBT runaways in Chicago. We were trying to get funding for a project that would have given job training and some basic life skills training to the kids. Part of our problem was that "reuniting families" was not our main focus, because the families of GLBT runaways rarely wake up and get it, fostercare and other youth groups send kids back into places where mummy and daddy smiled for the judge and then shipped little suzie off to church camp for some aversion therapy. Or they just continued to make the kids' lives hell.

We were trying to give kids the skills to step over the cracks in the system so that they could navigate being without a support system regardless of the presence of their parents. With funding evaporating, I was left with a job in children's services - and that my dear is a job that will rot your soul from the inside out.

So I'm not doing SW for a job, rather putting I skills to use for various organizations after work. Stay in Acadamae.. it's icky out here

Still, it is good that you got involved with something that you cared about. even if it was soul-draining. My goal in life is to teach at a university level. so i've got about 8 more years before i'll be living my dream haha

[slipper]

As a mental health professional, I can assure you that if you have repeated relationship problems, the "answer" is not a t-girl or anyone else in particular.

One simply needs to explore what one gives and expects in relationships, and how, along with extreme honestly with oneself. Relationship quality can change for the better with any potential partner, straight, gay, bi, ts, or whatever.

All the best.

[meja]

Strict definitions are usually based on abstract boundaries between artificial categories. Thus rigid expectations of what is and what ought to be are often dashed by reality.

For instance people tend to think of the sexes in terms of binary opposition but the reality is that a certain percentage of the population is congenitally inter-sexed. Gender is even more complex. In India there are at least three genders and in I have heard that is a rather low number in comparison to other cultures. Sexual orientation is even more complicated as human being can be sexually attracted to almost anything. Shoes, Latex, Men, Women, Eunuchs, Trans- _ _ _ _ , Post op, Pre op, and the list goes on endlessly.

Sex, Gender and Sexual Orientation also operate independently of one another. I was once suddenly kissed by a genetic female who was F2M but often mistaken for a lesbian when in fact she was attracted to gay men.... which she thought I was, but actually I am a bit middle gendered.... Well it was all a bit awkward but we got through it.

It is best to meet life with the expectation that it is far more complex and wonderful than you could have ever imagined. I think Dr. Seuss actually said it best

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

[timshield]

once you get passed the mixed feelings you experienced, and accept the new feelings and start to feel comfortable with it youl probably notice the benefits the new edge of sexual experience to me i still feel pretty much like a hetero guy cause its allbout the female forms to me even thought the sex can be way different

[barbados37]

hey bro. I pondered the same question and figured-

1- TG fans don't like men, we seek a feminine form, not masculine. Now if you like dudes too, that's fine, but that doesn't fall into this category. It just means you're in several, yeah? For me it's mostly a fetish- a woman with different equipment.

2- you shouldn't post your image in a public forum if you're not sure yet about "coming out"

[Creedence]

Bianca as I've said before and will say again is so beautiful she could be a model if not for the narrow mindedness of society.

You downloaded her because she looked like a genetic female right? That means you were attracted to her femininity.

You're not gay, don't worry.