I give up

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Well, I have given up on giving up. A guy I briefly dated this summer (who dumpped me because he started to like me too much *boggle*) asked me out a few weeks ago. We have been dating VERY casually - intentionally not seriously and it has been fun. I have no illusions that we will progress to anything serious, we just don't have that much in common.

One good thing about him... he always shows up when we have a date, and calls if he's late. I'm always amazed at how often we get stood up. He also took me to meet some of his friends.

BIONCA,

Use a casual approach to find out what the road block was/is, because you have nothing to lose by doing so. Ergo, it's not friends. Gently, mention family members and co-workers he has w/o being direct, while watching his facial reactions to their mention to gather clues. As you probably know, he is cool w/ you, as are his friends. Somebody (1 or more) isn't. Or he doesn't want more than just fun.

Trying to help,

TAL

[Bionca]

The roadblock on his part is that his brother is gay (we met in a gay bar) and he's a little afraid that being with me makes him gay. He asked me not to tell his friends - I haven't told, but I also didn't promise that I wouldn't (if they said something ignorant, I'd have to say something). So far nothing came up and I really don't expect it to.

I know he really likes me - but we seriously have nothing in common. Conversations are light and casual, but no real shared interests. We do ave some earth-moving sex though. I mean seriously, some of the best I have ever had. I know I'm OK with how the relationship is, and he's a guy - I doubt he's losing sleep with a kinda cute girl who just wants to go out dancing and then make his eyes cross and urge him on to orgasm #3 and isn't making any real demands of his time or attention (unless we are in the same room).

[Talvenada]

BIONCA:

You do have ONE hugh thing in common: the best sex, and the way to his heart is thru his cock. You spoiled him by being a super aggressive bottom.

Looks and you: it's not either. Even if you meet the right person, you have to meet them at the right time. Forget the pattern, it's not you or your looks. BTW, 2 out of every 3 straight relationships don't work or 67% w/ a total of 56% ending in divorce, which means there are a lot of people living together in unhappy fragile relationships.

It's a long journey, but worth the wait.


Piece,


TAL