I give up

[Rachel]

Nah, I walk better in 5 inch heels then I do in low heels

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by Rachel

Nah, I walk better in 5 inch heels then I do in low heels

RACHEL,

How can you tell when you're in that state of euphoria?

It's so interesting that you answered #2 before giving this answer,
which means you feel no pain in that state of bliss, no?


Piece,


TAL

[Rachel]

perhaps somethings are better said in private messages

[Bionca]

Well, I have given up on giving up. A guy I briefly dated this summer (who dumpped me because he started to like me too much *boggle*) asked me out a few weeks ago. We have been dating VERY casually - intentionally not seriously and it has been fun. I have no illusions that we will progress to anything serious, we just don't have that much in common.

One good thing about him... he always shows up when we have a date, and calls if he's late. I'm always amazed at how often we get stood up. He also took me to meet some of his friends.

[CreativeMind]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Well, I have given up on giving up.

Hmm...I don't know. Maybe it's just me, but "given up on giving up" definitely sounds like one of those double negative thingies that cancels itself out. Which means things sound pretty promising for you there!

And I say good. Slates should always be wiped clean, with a new spirit of hope in the air. Because when it comes to romance or finding that special person who will care about you for all that you are inside, I think no one should ever "give up". After all, there's someone for everyone, even if in today's modern dating world it often seems that you have to go searching far and wide.

So, since you're one of the nicest people around here, Bionca, I think I speak for all when I say we're rooting for you and wishing you all the best with this. Just make sure he brings flowers and picks up the tab at dinner! And he buys whatever concessions you want at the movies -- soda, popcorn, candy AND those cheese gooey nachos!

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Well, I have given up on giving up. A guy I briefly dated this summer (who dumpped me because he started to like me too much *boggle*) asked me out a few weeks ago. We have been dating VERY casually - intentionally not seriously and it has been fun. I have no illusions that we will progress to anything serious, we just don't have that much in common.

One good thing about him... he always shows up when we have a date, and calls if he's late. I'm always amazed at how often we get stood up. He also took me to meet some of his friends.

BIONCA,

Use a casual approach to find out what the road block was/is, because you have nothing to lose by doing so. Ergo, it's not friends. Gently, mention family members and co-workers he has w/o being direct, while watching his facial reactions to their mention to gather clues. As you probably know, he is cool w/ you, as are his friends. Somebody (1 or more) isn't. Or he doesn't want more than just fun.

Trying to help,

TAL

[Bionca]

The roadblock on his part is that his brother is gay (we met in a gay bar) and he's a little afraid that being with me makes him gay. He asked me not to tell his friends - I haven't told, but I also didn't promise that I wouldn't (if they said something ignorant, I'd have to say something). So far nothing came up and I really don't expect it to.

I know he really likes me - but we seriously have nothing in common. Conversations are light and casual, but no real shared interests. We do ave some earth-moving sex though. I mean seriously, some of the best I have ever had. I know I'm OK with how the relationship is, and he's a guy - I doubt he's losing sleep with a kinda cute girl who just wants to go out dancing and then make his eyes cross and urge him on to orgasm #3 and isn't making any real demands of his time or attention (unless we are in the same room).

[Talvenada]

BIONCA:

You do have ONE hugh thing in common: the best sex, and the way to his heart is thru his cock. You spoiled him by being a super aggressive bottom.

Looks and you: it's not either. Even if you meet the right person, you have to meet them at the right time. Forget the pattern, it's not you or your looks. BTW, 2 out of every 3 straight relationships don't work or 67% w/ a total of 56% ending in divorce, which means there are a lot of people living together in unhappy fragile relationships.

It's a long journey, but worth the wait.


Piece,


TAL