The transsexual paradox...

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by Talvenada

HANK,

Does it have anything to do w/ what I've heard of as trans women will go way beyond their genetic sisters to please a man? In other words a gen girl will go at %'s of 50-50 to 75-25 to get a man, while a trans girl will go 100-0: a total sacrifice of self toward a relationship goal. It seems logical, but my sample is very small. In your travels, have you encountered that at all?

I think Hank is mostly correct in that it is cultural. However - you need to remember that as children Trans* women often picked up gendered behavior messages and applied them mentally in odd ways (because we didn't have a safe social context to experiment and get them right on our own).

So, I could see a Tranbs woman giving all of herself to a relationship thinking it was what she was suposed to do, or it was the "feminine way" or "noble" or simply in an attempt to "keep a man". Lord knows having a man who is willing to stay after he comes is rare enough...

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I think Hank is mostly correct in that it is cultural. However - you need to remember that as children Trans* women often picked up gendered behavior messages and applied them mentally in odd ways (because we didn't have a safe social context to experiment and get them right on our own).

So, I could see a Tranbs woman giving all of herself to a relationship thinking it was what she was suposed to do, or it was the "feminine way" or "noble" or simply in an attempt to "keep a man". Lord knows having a man who is willing to stay after he comes is rare enough...

BIONCA,

There are facts and formulas for pretty much all relationships, which might help you. Some you might know, while others you might not realize on a conscious level.

I hope this can help you even in the smallest of ways. The female approach to a relationship is firstly emotional and secondly physical, while the male approach is the exact opposite. Men will look for physical attractiveness and pleasurable sex. The key to keep the man coming back are those two with a mutual interest or two. Some women will fake a hugh interest in sports to create that 3rd rail.

You said you had gg friends. Well, find out every trick they know about. Search out every place to meet a guy who would be interested in you, and interest you. It's a delicate balance of being your better self, and adding a few seamless tricks, which are selected with care.

The best trick is to make the person fall in love with you, because that emotion is a drug that always requires a fix w/ coming back to you being the only place to do so. But be careful knowing it can work in reverse, and create other problems, as well.

I really hope this helps you in your quest for happiness.

[merelypink]

very deep