You have a T-Girl..so now what??

[Bionca]

The short answer.. yes, treat her like the woman she is. The best answer... treat her like the individual person she is.

[milesfink]

Great job....great advice

[sesame]

Bionca,
I am amazed on seeing how honest you are! Those tips you wrote were from your actual life? Wow! After reading the incident at the bar, I think that the man you took as a date was really insensitive. It may be that he is a half-witted person, but chances are that he was having fun insulting you. Some people are cruel right to the core.
Try not to associate with people with skin deep beauty. You are a very clever person. So, see whats in his mind, before giving up all your sensitive details to him. Someone who knows a lot about you and your neighbourhood, can inflict a lot of damage and cause pain. Dont rush, for heaven's sake. Go slow.
Thanks for sharing your field notes with us.

[SweetCharmer]

i'm really ashamed to think that there are men out there like that. For me
Bionca most of my friends see me as an idiot at time just because i'm and old fashion person when it comes to relationships, now a days i hear from my friends "oh i met this really fit girl and she was good in bed and gice me the best BJ" and all that. to me sleeping with the person you like on the first night isn't good no offence to anyone. i just do it the old way courting and whatnot y'know getting to know them first and then thinking about sex at another time and here's the punchline. all the girls i've dated have been the type to want sex on the first night so when i wanna know them better i'm usually dumped in the first couple of weeks or at most 3 months so yeah i know what you mean by insensitive people

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by SweetCharmer

i'm really ashamed to think that there are men out there like that. For me
Bionca most of my friends see me as an idiot at time just because i'm and old fashion person when it comes to relationships, now a days i hear from my friends "oh i met this really fit girl and she was good in bed and gice me the best BJ" and all that. to me sleeping with the person you like on the first night isn't good no offence to anyone. i just do it the old way courting and whatnot y'know getting to know them first and then thinking about sex at another time and here's the punchline. all the girls i've dated have been the type to want sex on the first night so when i wanna know them better i'm usually dumped in the first couple of weeks or at most 3 months so yeah i know what you mean by insensitive people

While I have been known to show the goods on a first date, there is nothing like the build up that happens by courting eachother. It probably sn't that the girs wanted sex on the first night, but rather they expected it. They probably read your desire to wait fro sex as rejection. Even if you tolf them up front that you want to wait.. most women won't believe it because most guys will lie about sex to get more. So women who have their self-image partly wrapped up in how they look (most are guilty) will be a little hurt by the "rejection" of sex.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by sesame

Bionca,
I am amazed on seeing how honest you are! Those tips you wrote were from your actual life? Wow! After reading the incident at the bar, I think that the man you took as a date was really insensitive. It may be that he is a half-witted person, but chances are that he was having fun insulting you. Some people are cruel right to the core.
Try not to associate with people with skin deep beauty. You are a very clever person. So, see whats in his mind, before giving up all your sensitive details to him. Someone who knows a lot about you and your neighbourhood, can inflict a lot of damage and cause pain. Dont rush, for heaven's sake. Go slow.
Thanks for sharing your field notes with us.

Well, I need to be upfront wiith guys about being trans. I don't want to get in a sitution where I need to have a conversation about it. At best we keep going out, but he doesn't trust me any more. At worst, I'm not physically safe. So, it's a risk I take while needing to be genuine.

I will however, never let my non-trans friends fix me up again. For people who know me, they must have a low opinion of me . Either that or they thnk "I have a tranny friend and this guy here wants to do a tranny.. I'll fix them up on a date".