You have a T-Girl..so now what??

Bionca · #1 06-02-2008

Hank, I agree 100%. Take cues from the woman you are dating. It can feel like a strange balancing act "Do I talk aabout IT?" "Do I ignore IT?" "What if I want to touch IT?" Thankfully most Transwomen are aware of the delema and have enough understanding of men to know that direct communication wins over sublte hints every time.

I also did mean to imply that a guy should ignore a Transwoman's "male" past. Hell, I did some awesome stuff as a guy that I'd love to share with a potential boyfriend. It is just rude to press for that information on a first date.

hankhavelock · #2 06-02-2008

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Originally Posted by Bionca

I also did mean to imply that a guy should ignore a Transwoman's "male" past. Hell, I did some awesome stuff as a guy that I'd love to share with a potential boyfriend. It is just rude to press for that information on a first date.

Hahaha - that's a lovely remark :-) Actually, I believe that once you pass your inhibitions (transsexuals also have to pass their inhibitions... it's not only the nervous, nervewrecked guys on their first date with a DAAANGEROUS woman :-) and feel comfortable about doing so, then you've probably found the right guy ;-) But on the first date? Oh well, why not :-)

Bionca · #3 06-02-2008

One thing that this site has helped me realise is the point of view of the guys who are curious to meet a girl like me. I think, for me, I have already puzzled out gender and sexuality issues as far as my life goes. It's all pretty old news here. But for guys, it's new and in a way just a frightening as it was for me at first.

I'm saying that I should accept poor treatment because some guy is new to this. But a bit more understanding and maybe be a bit less critical.

TheSkronkDonkey · #4 06-03-2008

Cheers, Bionca. Without wishing to condescend, I'd say that that list is pretty simple and obvious. The bottom line is RESPECT. With a little modification to the wording, those rules could easily apply to any budding relationship with any person of any colour, creed or gender.

It made me cringe reading that date story of yours, Bionca. I would never dream of behaving like that to anyone. In fact, awkwardness sometimes occurs because I tend to tread a little too carefully, sometimes (inadvertently) appearing tongue tied or disinterested. There is such a thing as being overly cautious. I'm talking about meeting new people in general (never met a transsexual -- that I know of!). That guy really deserved a slap, but I guess you're above such things.

thequietone1 · #5 03-07-2009

I had a big post all typed up but decided to spare you all the shit it contained when a word given/used by a Thai friend in a conversation about her progression popped into my head. It is what you personify Bionca. Im not gonna kiss your ass, you know you better than I, but I think this word is partly yours also.

Shine.

And, Im gonna borrow from the great Eric Clapton as thats what popped into my head when I first saw your pics in this thread.

" We go a party
And everyone turns to see
This beautiful lady
Thats walking around with me
And then she asks me
Do you feel alright
And I say yes, I feel wonderful tonight"

I'll go climb back on my bong now.

Thx B. You make this planet a little more bareable for some of us out here