You have a T-Girl..so now what??

[BlueRaven88]

lol i read through your tips bionca and i have to say that these are kind of 'no shit shirlock' tips. do people actually treat T-Girls as guys? they may have a penis but for god's sake they aren't men and if they were half of us wouldn't be interested because we aren't attracted to masculinity. good tips though for those of us here that didn't already know this sort of stuff :P

[Bionca]

Unfortunately, yes, I or my friend Staci (a toally HOT gurl), have dated guys who have done each of these things - usually many of them on a date. This comes from guys who either think they need to go through the motions of a "real date" to get some sex or guys who feel like they are doing us a favor.

Probably the worst date took me to a crowded bar in my neighborhood on a Friday night. We sat at the bar for some drinks to chat after dinner. The bar was busy and noisy and small, so we had to almost shout to eachother to have a conversation. He started off asking me if I was "getting the 'big guy' cut off" (or something just as crude). I looked at him blankly and he said it LOUDER (I guess he thought i didnt hear it the first time). I shruggedhoping he'd get the hint. Then he asked "what's your REAL name.. when you were a dude." At this point I knew the people around me had heard their expressions changed and they looked at eachother and started to laugh, then they really LOOKED at me. I excused myself and went to the bathroom to try to calm down (I also wondered if I could fit through the tiny window in te bathroom and escape all together).

When I came out my date wasn't in our seats, and someone had taken them. I looked around and he was at a table with three girls. I saw him collecting some pieces of paper from two of them. I walked up and smiled and pointed out that out seats were gone. He smiled, put the papers in hs pocket, gave me that "guy punch" in the upper arm and said "Hey man, you how us guys are".

I turned to the table of women and said "Good luck... he's all yours". Then I promptly left. The absolute worst part was him calling a few days later like nothing happened, he had no idea why I was pissed and didn't want to go out again.

That was the crappiest date, and those were the parts where my perception of myself and his perception did not meet. He was, in general, also just a crappy date.
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[brianna]

Originally Posted by Bionca

He was, in general, also just a crappy date.
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You've really opened my eyes. I know there's all types out there, but I'd never thought something like this could happen.

How do you assess potential dates after this type of experience? What do you look for in a guy before you'll go out with him?

[Bionca]

I wish I had some actual advice on how to weed out the duds from the studs (lol). Just trust your gut and try to get to know guys before meeting them.

[brianna]

Well needed advice to treat our transgendered friends with the utmost respect, as we should with any woman. - not like porn star fantasies/novelties.

Thank you.