what is anal sex like?

[mike50-tslover]

Originally Posted by aguy

Here's some insight:


If you're bottom things are a bit more complicated.As a man you will enjoy anal sex more than a woman simply because you have a prostate.

When you take cock inside your ass it feels great because her penis rubs against your prostate.
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*** I am trying to penetrate myself with a dildo for a week now. I achieve only some cm (perhaps 7 or 8 cm). I feel no fun, no erection, mostly pain
I think I have to go further to reach the prostate, right?
Some advice?

[aguy]

Originally Posted by mike50-tslover

*** I am trying to penetrate myself with a dildo for a week now. I achieve only some cm (perhaps 7 or 8 cm). I feel no fun, no erection, mostly pain
I think I have to go further to reach the prostate, right?
Some advice?

Lube more,change positions,relax more.It's also a matter of angle.

It just takes some time to get used to it.

[ila]

Originally Posted by aguy

Lube more,change positions,relax more.It's also a matter of angle.

It just takes some time to get used to it.

And he should spread his legs as wide as possible.

[diablo598]

Originally Posted by aguy

Lube more,change positions,relax more.It's also a matter of angle.

It just takes some time to get used to it.

You are right on the taking time. I broke down this past weekend because I have fun with a bullet in me and a small but plug but the larger ones hurt and I get a burning sensation.

I went to a Adult bookstore that was off the beaten path and talked with the clerk and was very shy about it. I explained that I love anal play for myself and that I had no issues with the bullet and small plug but when I tried the next size up it burned and hurt. She suggested a relaxing lub instead of a numbing one and said that a numbing lub would keep me from feeling pain and I could get hurt and not know it. but a relaxing lub would help me relax to where I could take the larger toy and it not hurt as much but let me know when enough was enough.

that night as I watched my favorite shemale movie I inserted the larger vibrating plug and what a rush.

Long story short find a store that will take the time to help you and take the time to explain things to you.

[aguy]

Originally Posted by diablo598

You are right on the taking time. I broke down this past weekend because I have fun with a bullet in me and a small but plug but the larger ones hurt and I get a burning sensation.

I went to a Adult bookstore that was off the beaten path and talked with the clerk and was very shy about it. I explained that I love anal play for myself and that I had no issues with the bullet and small plug but when I tried the next size up it burned and hurt. She suggested a relaxing lub instead of a numbing one and said that a numbing lub would keep me from feeling pain and I could get hurt and not know it. but a relaxing lub would help me relax to where I could take the larger toy and it not hurt as much but let me know when enough was enough.

that night as I watched my favorite shemale movie I inserted the larger vibrating plug and what a rush.

Long story short find a store that will take the time to help you and take the time to explain things to you.

Many people don't feel ok when they realize they like to have things in their ass.This alone does not make it easier (relaxed anus that is) simply because it's the first time and they feel "new" and "shy" to this part of their sexuality.

Lubes,positions,fingers first,small dildos won't do crap if you're not ok with it mentally.

First time I had sex with a tgirl felt quite normal simply because I knew it in my mind it was right.

First time I took a tgirl dick in my ass also felt normal for the same reason.She was quite hung and I was not used to taking large dicks in me but I was so eager for it that after the initial pain and stretch I could take her hard.

Mindset is quite important too,sure you should start small and work your way to bigger dildos and dicks but you first need to be ok with it mentally.

[ZoeyWilde]

It's definitely painful at first. I was used to fingers when I tried penetration with a dildo for the first time. It hurt quite a bit, even with lube, but after that... It just feels really really good. It's nothing like having your cock stroked, it's an entirely different feeling. Personally, the best sex I ever had was anal, it's worth trying.

Originally Posted by mike50-tslover

*** I am trying to penetrate myself with a dildo for a week now. I achieve only some cm (perhaps 7 or 8 cm). I feel no fun, no erection, mostly pain
I think I have to go further to reach the prostate, right?
Some advice?

How big is the dildo? If you're trying something too large or if you're not using enough lubricant (not soap or lotion, real lubricant), then you will have trouble getting anything to go in. If you're not ready or lubed up, you probably don't want it to go in, it will just hurt like hell. It also helps to insert fingers first. Go for at least two before you try to insert a dildo. A bit of incremental stretch will prevent injury.

[mike50-tslover]

Originally Posted by ZoeyWilde

It's definitely painful at first. .....

How big is the dildo? If you're trying something too large or if you're not using enough lubricant (not soap or lotion, real lubricant), then you will have trouble getting anything to go in. If you're not ready or lubed up, you probably don't want it to go in, it will just hurt like hell. It also helps to insert fingers first. Go for at least two before you try to insert a dildo. A bit of incremental stretch will prevent injury.

*** Sure, it is a small dildo. I can enter not more than 8 cm. And now I am trying for a week. Still not funny... some get an erection when getting f***d.
But for me not only funny but far away from ANY erection.

[aguy]

Lube properly and RELAX.Maybe you should try a smaller dildo too...

[Smoothie]

maybe the user Mike50 just isn't into it. My first experience was when I was very young and tried silly things like a pencil or pen, and stepped up to a small carrot/etc. The reason I tried these things is because I was interested, and I didn't jump the gun into it.

If you are a top and like being a top, just "let it be" if you don't enjoy receiving anal. Everybody is different, and nothing should dictate your personal desires in your sex life.

[Jongos]

the narrow hole make you unforgettable

[smooth]

that depends....if you are pitching or catching

[LarryP]

[QUOTE=ZoeyWilde;239600]It's definitely painful at first. I was used to fingers when I tried penetration with a dildo for the first time. It hurt quite a bit, even with lube, but after that... It just feels really really good. It's nothing like having your cock stroked, it's an entirely different feeling. Personally, the best sex I ever had was anal, it's worth trying.

Hi Zoey--like you, I just love being penetrated. I love it that my dick gets rock hard and ooozes pre-cum without being touched!! And the pleasure of feeling your partners cock sliding in and out of your ass and stroking your prostrate just keeps building slowly, but strongly. The pleasure is so intense.........the best!!

So a quick answer is--anal sex can be really good!! Find a partner you trust, go slow and use lots of lube. Melissa's comment is excellent, recommend you follow her advice!!

[eric]

Definitely it should be with someone sensitive and gentle who had anal sex himself. So he knows how does it feel.

[merelypink]

Before you do it google "preparing for anal sex" and also remember lots of lube!!

[GRH]

Two words...Fucking amazing!

Backdoor loving is fantastic even if the penis isn't involved at all. Add in a reach around or oral, and you can go to another planet. One of my favorites is to receive anal while being flipped up and being stroked, such that I cum into my own mouth.

[sailove]

I read this thread with little interest. I had experience, with girlfriends strapons, but after reading this thread I got my toys out. It's all about your attitude, if you want to get fucked, you will enjoy it' if you pull your panties down and spread your cheeks you will love what you get. I have loved taking a giant dildo up my ass, it went in easily. Now I wear my fem clothes and I love it. Thank you DANNOH

[kabas1970]

Originally Posted by ZoeyWilde

It's definitely painful at first. I was used to fingers when I tried penetration with a dildo for the first time. It hurt quite a bit, even with lube, but after that... It just feels really really good. It's nothing like having your cock stroked, it's an entirely different feeling. Personally, the best sex I ever had was anal, it's worth trying.


How big is the dildo? If you're trying something too large or if you're not using enough lubricant (not soap or lotion, real lubricant), then you will have trouble getting anything to go in. If you're not ready or lubed up, you probably don't want it to go in, it will just hurt like hell. It also helps to insert fingers first. Go for at least two before you try to insert a dildo. A bit of incremental stretch will prevent injury.

what a good position who male u feel very good when u get cock in u

[Trans_Jennifer]

My first time anal was very painful. The guys cock was fat and we
used many lube. As he try to put his cock in my pussy i couldnt breath.
I wanted to tell him he must stop it but cant. The guy enjoyed my tight
hole and that its hurting me. After he was ready and out of me it stil hurts
over days. Today i enjoy anal and love it getting fucked harder.
Jenn

[LBLuva]

My first time was sort of painful, sort of pleasurable. It hurt for just a minute, and then there was this deep burn that felt really good. I had been prepping with a few different vibrators (3, going up in size) and even slept with a butt plug for a few nights prior to my anal cherry busting. Now, I love anal! My Filipina tgirlfriend has a nice brown 7" cock that's rock hard and just perfect!

[CatOfNineTails]

I only have experience in topping... and good advice has already been given here.

Before I go in I prefer to get her relaxed, lubed and ready to receive my cock. I start by gently stroking my tongue around her anus and poking inside with the tip of my tongue while swirling it around. I generally get really turned on and begin to salivate quite a bit, producing more than enough "lube."

When she's ready I like to slap the head of my penis on her anus and gently press in, sometimes I'll spit on it some more to get a little extra lube and let it slide in. I just work it in little by little until its sliding freely and begin going at it balls deep.

[sailove]

I always insert a butt plug first it makes me very horny. I love to feel full of cock, girlie cock that is, pounding my asshole. I love it bareback and I love it when she shoots in my hole!

[RobbyPants]

Originally Posted by mike50-tslover

I achieve only some cm (perhaps 7 or 8 cm). I feel no fun, no erection, mostly pain
I think I have to go further to reach the prostate, right?

No, you should be able to reach it with fingers. It's not in very deep.

As everyone else said: lubricate and relax. Don't rush it.

[merelypink]

Use lots of lube and go slow the first time and it can be enjoyable

[umibozu]

You don't need a lot inside to stimulate the prostate- a finger can do it just fine.

[ila]

Taking a cock in me was one of the most wonderful, erotic experiences ever. I absolutely love feeling a cock opening me and sliding in and out going fast and slow, deep and shallow until finally my partner can take the pleasure no more and shoots a load of sperm into me. It gives me a feeling of great satisfaction to know that my body has given pleasure to another person.

So far I've only been fucked by guys, but I hope to one day be fucked by a tgirl (or two or three or more).