Why can't we just say ladies ?

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Smoothie

For starters, this isn't a politically driven site. Most of us do view ladyboys as females, but then again even you wouldn't have found this "transladyboy" site on a search engine by searching for the keyword "female"...
This website is an *adult* oriented forum for transsexuals and their admirers. The term Transsexual, transgendered or Ladyboy is not derogatory. Some may dislike words like "shemale", but in the end I believe it's all about how the words are used and if the poster has ill-intentions.

I can't speak for the administrators or moderators of this forum, but I can assure you that this forum does not tolerate bigotry.

I tend to agree with this statement. And as a guy living in Asia the term "ladyboy" is heavily used within the trans-community here without any ill-meaning - even "shemale". In the political West this is different, though.

Different folks, different attitudes.

However, terms such as "trans-woman" or "transgender" normally would be considered more respectful - or simply "woman" or "lady" as you suggest.

It does depend on the context, though. And also the person. I have, most certainly, several Asian trans-woman friends who object to the term "ladyboy" (or its local versions) and prefer just to be called "woman". At least when referring to themselves... :-)

It's an issue that keeps flaring up, and my experience is that it also depends on who you are - a little bit the same as the socalled n-word - as an African-American you can use it without a problem, but don't do it as an outsider :-)

So I guess it all boils down to how the receiver perceives your intentions when using a particular term.

Be respectful - and be observant.

Peace!

H

[hankhavelock]

And one more thing... this is a very unique forum as there are two completely separate "mindsets" debating - mostly separately, though mingling is accepted.

The ones dealing with the "funfunfun" stuff of having sex (such as: does any of you know this hottie... I surely would looove to toot in her trumpeto...) and the ones dealing with more mundane aspects (such as: within Darwinian theory, gynemimetophilia may be a route to a despectful approach - Benjamin et al.).

AND WE SEEM TO GET ALONG JUST FINE!

I've never seen another forum, where this is the case - and I find it liberating, actually.

H

[franalexes]

What one calls us (T-gurls) varies on one's viewpoint of what we are. In a porno setting like this site, I suppose many think shemales are sex machines. That probably does not offend those that are in "the business". Some of you guys try to reach into our emotional thoughts of ourselves and often see us in a world of prejudice and confusion.
I am not offended by use of the many terms. It all depends on the inter-action you have with me. Some may say I'm " a mouth watering sweatheart" while others sign me in as " the flamming fiesty bitch ! "

[franalexes]

HANK !
Dammit ! Clean out your pm inbox. No one can send you mail.

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by franalexes

HANK !
Dammit ! Clean out your pm inbox. No one can send you mail.

DARN IT... YES MAM... HAVING NOT BEEN ON THIS FORUM REGULARLY FOR QUITE SOME TIME...