questioning my sexuality. a new member

[aguy]

smc you got this wrong man..

''taking away salf-identity as a right'' ? ? When the fuck did I do that exactly?

[smc]

Originally Posted by aguy

smc you got this wrong man..

''taking away salf-identity as a right'' ? ? When the fuck did I do that exactly?

When? When you impose your own language on the identity of another person or group, and then tell that other person or group that it doesn't matter because it's just "semantics" ... that's when.

I suspect that you have never had to grapple with what it means to be in a group oppressed by societal mores or prejudices. In those circumstances, things like your words that you see as innocuous -- "I like girls and I also like shemales" -- can cut like a knife. Don't you realize that in a sentence like that you are saying that these are different gender identities? How would you like someone to impose her or his definition on you, and then laugh off your objection by saying "So get over semantics"?

[aguy]

Point taken man but think of this very forum you're a member of:It's called Trans Ladyboy forum...So does this mean the whole website is offensive to its own subject?

Or should it be called Ladies forum?

Just something to comment on...

[smc]

Originally Posted by aguy

Point taken man but think of this very forum you're a member of:It's called Trans Ladyboy forum...So does this mean the whole website is offensive to its own subject?

Or should it be called Ladies forum?

Just something to comment on...

It's a nice change of pace to see someone give real consideration to the points made in a discussion of this sort and then realize that even inadvertent use of ungendering language is problematic. I appreciate your willingness to have done so.

The name of the Forum has been a subject of discussion from time to time, but it is not really a problem in the specific context of the discussion we've been having. To clarify: the issue with the language you were using is not the term "shemale" or "transladyboy," but rather the definition you chose to give a term, which thus ungendered people in that group. If the Forum were called "Transladyboy Not Females Forum," that would be a serious problem.

See the difference?

[aguy]

Like I said, I get the point.

No need to argue about this anymore!

As far as ''questioning sexuality issues''(which I think is this threads' theme) I believe labels and tags are just useless.

You like who you like,no need to put a title on yourself.