Talking with sweet TS and need advice

[Enoch Root]

Originally Posted by iluvyurwifey

I'm chatting with a very pleasant sounding TS and needed some advice. She sounds absolutely marvelous and I wanted to form a discreet relationship with her. To begin, I'm married and only attracted to very feminine TS (I'm sure I'm the only one, right?). The lady is pretty well known in the area and doesn't want anyone to know who she's dating, so our situations work well together. I'm going to take a guess that many TS ladies don't want to be with a married man for a variety of reasons, so I consider myself lucky to have met her. What can I do to help start up a wonderful relationship with this lady?

Hopefully people will dispense with the infidelity morals and such and offer me some real advice, since her and I are both consenting adults.

And your wife is an adult as well. I'm certain she would not want you to go around behind her back and thus hurt her deeply.

Did it ever occur to you to discuss your sexual proclivities with your wife? Surely I am not the only person on this site who has no interest in monogamy yet is very much interested in honesty and communication and loyalty?

[iluvyurwifey]

Originally Posted by Enoch Root

And your wife is an adult as well. I'm certain she would not want you to go around behind her back and thus hurt her deeply.

Did it ever occur to you to discuss your sexual proclivities with your wife? Surely I am not the only person on this site who has no interest in monogamy yet is very much interested in honesty and communication and loyalty?

Interesting. Not only do the buttin-skis ignore the pleadings of an OP to spare him the morality lesson, but I noticed there wasn't one negative word said about the TS I'm talking to who knows exactly about my marital status. Only negative words about me. If the sites' T&C state that I am not allowed to post messages concerning infidelity, then I will take this post down and not speak of it again. Otherwise, I guess I'll just have to ignore the "holier than thou" crowd.

Thanks for your input. I'll take it into consideration.

[Enoch Root]

Originally Posted by iluvyurwifey

Interesting. Not only do the buttin-skis ignore the pleadings of an OP to spare him the morality lesson, but I noticed there wasn't one negative word said about the TS I'm talking to who knows exactly about my marital status. Only negative words about me. If the sites' T&C state that I am not allowed to post messages concerning infidelity, then I will take this post down and not speak of it again. Otherwise, I guess I'll just have to ignore the "holier than thou" crowd.

Thanks for your input. I'll take it into consideration.

Pleadings? To paraphrase the character Britta from "Community": it's so unfair how difficult it is for you to cheat.

Saying I am holier than thou is no argument against what I said. If you have indeed decided to ignore the feelings of your wife (that is to say, if she is unaware of what you are planning to do, to cheat on her rather than attempt to establish an honest and open relationship), if you have decided to throw morality to the wind then the problems lies with you not with me.

If on the other hand your wife is aware of your desire for this other woman then there is no problem. I did give you a basic piece of advise: talk to your wife. People have loosened up a bit about this stuff over the years and monogamy is no longer the monolith it once was (though it may be more accurate to say: the monolith it once pretended to be yet never was). You might even get her to participate in everything a non-monogamous relationship makes possible.

[ila]

The OP has stated his request that people keep their morality views out of the replies to his question. His request should be honoured. If anyone takes exception to the OP's morals then by all means express your opinions in a PM to him. Meanwhile restrict your answers to what the OP has asked.

[merelypink]

pay and escort... realationship are always messy atleast with a escort there almost no chance of blow back

[iluvyurwifey]

Originally Posted by merelypink

pay and escort... realationship are always messy atleast with a escort there almost no chance of blow back

Normally, I would agree. But, our goals both coincide. So long as neither of us develop feelings toward each other, all should go well.

Sigh...I guess it's just a matter of establishing chemistry. That kind of thing can't be forced.

[franalexes]

You want to go swimming but don't want to get wet.

You are after jewels instead of treasures.

[ROYGES]

Originally Posted by Enoch Root

Pleadings? To paraphrase the character Britta from "Community": it's so unfair how difficult it is for you to cheat.

Saying I am holier than thou is no argument against what I said. If you have indeed decided to ignore the feelings of your wife (that is to say, if she is unaware of what you are planning to do, to cheat on her rather than attempt to establish an honest and open relationship), if you have decided to throw morality to the wind then the problems lies with you not with me.

If on the other hand your wife is aware of your desire for this other woman then there is no problem. I did give you a basic piece of advise: talk to your wife. People have loosened up a bit about this stuff over the years and monogamy is no longer the monolith it once was (though it may be more accurate to say: the monolith it once pretended to be yet never was). You might even get her to participate in everything a non-monogamous relationship makes possible.

What is Morality?
Some people think it is Inmoral to have anal sex , Oral sex , sex before Marriage, gay sex , to be promiscuous ,taking those in consideration are you inmoral? , or is it inmoral to just do thinks you consider inmoral?

[franalexes]

Metaphorically I was trying to tell you that you are after the benefits of a relationship without knowing the pleasure of a full one.
It is not going to be easy to have repetitious meetings and not develop some nature of bonding to the other person. Your meetings and what you expect out of them are the "jewels". What you could end up having is the complete package; a loving relationship. That is the "treasure".
I probably have a more rewarding treasure in my relationships with Jody, Tom, Mel, Randolph, Ila, CuriousJim, Jodie, SSL, TracyCoxx, Jen and others yet to appear than you will get from your jewels.
I'm not putting you down. I'm telling you that the package you are playing with is more than the fancy wrapper. You may not be seeking love, but love may find you.

[ila]

^ Very well put, Fran. I now understand what you were trying to say with your first post.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by franalexes

Metaphorically I was trying to tell you that you are after the benefits of a relationship without knowing the pleasure of a full one.
It is not going to be easy to have repetitious meetings and not develop some nature of bonding to the other person. Your meetings and what you expect out of them are the "jewels". What you could end up having is the complete package; a loving relationship. That is the "treasure".
I probably have a more rewarding treasure in my relationships with Jody, Tom, Mel, Randolph, Ila, CuriousJim, Jodie, SSL, TracyCoxx, Jen and others yet to appear than you will get from your jewels.
I'm not putting you down. I'm telling you that the package you are playing with is more than the fancy wrapper. You may not be seeking love, but love may find you.

Wow!
That is so well put and beautiful.

[smc]

Originally Posted by franalexes

Metaphorically I was trying to tell you that you are after the benefits of a relationship without knowing the pleasure of a full one.
It is not going to be easy to have repetitious meetings and not develop some nature of bonding to the other person. Your meetings and what you expect out of them are the "jewels". What you could end up having is the complete package; a loving relationship. That is the "treasure".
I probably have a more rewarding treasure in my relationships with Jody, Tom, Mel, Randolph, Ila, CuriousJim, Jodie, SSL, TracyCoxx, Jen and others yet to appear than you will get from your jewels.
I'm not putting you down. I'm telling you that the package you are playing with is more than the fancy wrapper. You may not be seeking love, but love may find you.

This is so true. I have found at least one such treasured bond here, that I expect to last a lifetime ... no matter what else may happen. It has nothing to do with sex. And I wasn't even looking for it.

[Be_my_nude]

Originally Posted by smc

This is so true. I have found at least one such treasured bond here, that I expect to last a lifetime ... no matter what else may happen. It has nothing to do with sex. And I wasn't even looking for it.

Like many feelings that reach deep into our inner selves, such treasures are a surprise and revelation about ourselves as much as anything else.

So much of our lives are spent frenetically on self-serving activities aimed at own own satisfaction, whether in our jobs, bank balances, or sexual relationships, that hedonism and ambition can so easily obscure all else.

It seems you have found something ( or someone ) smc, that has given you something of great worth, and I'm glad for you.

Like Love, such things cannot be found by seeking. As you said, they strangely enough seem to find you !

Take care to cherish -