Discussion of TS as escorts

[smc]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Most guys didn't want to be seen with me in public - and I NEVER get read as trans (except this one time by a homeless guy). Most guys would never even think about introducing me to their friends - ever. Most guys never bothered to tell me about the wife and kids.

I can totally understand why trans women get into sex work for the reasons mentioned above. Jobs are hard to get, guys treat us like we are porn fantasies regardless of their financial investment in our time, we are largely saddled with sexual expectations that cis women aren't - it's no wonder some gals think "I may as well get mine..."

Whenever I read something like what you have written, Bionca, I feel compelled to make a comment.

My observation is that while many, if not most, men are pigs who treat women with such disrespect (and transwomen even worse) that it turns my stomach, there are some of us who strive not only to be different but also to point out the "shortcomings" of others when the opportunity comes along. I, for one, would be honored to introduce you to anyone. It is shameful that others are not. They are not worthy of being called "human."

In the small city I live that abuts Boston, our high schools have a program to introduce LGBT people to the entire student body and build awareness and respect. There is a zero tolerance policy for abusive language or behavior. And it works -- not always, but more often than not. I will never forget the day I was in a pizza parlor near the high school and overheard a hulking football player giving a stern lecture to another player about the nasty name the latter had just called a young person who had just left. I had not really noticed the person in question, but from the lecture I discerned that he was a very effiminate young man or perhaps a transwoman. In any case, the football player who was lectured actually acknowledged that he was wrong.

A small step, but ...

[racquel]

I have to agree with everything Bionca said. I know a whole lot of TS people, and only one of them used to be a prostitute now and then, and she has histrionic personality disorder and is a horrible person.

[sosed]

Originally Posted by smc

Whenever I read something like what you have written, Bionca, I feel compelled to make a comment.

My observation is that while many, if not most, men are pigs who treat women with such disrespect (and transwomen even worse) that it turns my stomach, there are some of us who strive not only to be different but also to point out the "shortcomings" of others when the opportunity comes along. I, for one, would be honored to introduce you to anyone. It is shameful that others are not. They are not worthy of being called "human."

In the small city I live that abuts Boston, our high schools have a program to introduce LGBT people to the entire student body and build awareness and respect. There is a zero tolerance policy for abusive language or behavior. And it works -- not always, but more often than not. I will never forget the day I was in a pizza parlor near the high school and overheard a hulking football player giving a stern lecture to another player about the nasty name the latter had just called a young person who had just left. I had not really noticed the person in question, but from the lecture I discerned that he was a very effiminate young man or perhaps a transwoman. In any case, the football player who was lectured actually acknowledged that he was wrong.

A small step, but ...

I find this program excellent idea. I think it could be more common in schools. How do they describe identity disorder, when there is male in female body or female in male body? I'm sure science know here much more than what is common known. After all understanding of trans people could, in the long term, give them proper legal status and laws, that they could normally live as any other citizen.

[JodieTs]

I got a different deal from most trans.
My man got to know me really well via email and phone calls
before meeting me for real, on a number of visits.
On my first visit to his place [for a week, he lives abroad]
he arranged a dinner party every night at a different friends house.
He also introduced me to the majority of people and businesses he is connected to.
At the time, I was hyper-paranoid about anyone knowing about my "T"
This was very important to him as well as he thinks there would be a negative impact on him
if anyone knew 'that thing' about me.
Personally, I don't think there would be.

I'm in a very different place now and while I never get 'read'
{On the very rare visit to tranny bars, people assume I'm a supportive wife to a cross-dressing husband!}
I have found an equilibrium within myself
where I really don't care if a person knew about my "T"background.

My man is not in the same mental place, and I respect that by not wearing my vest with the message:
Horny, hot & hung!

He certainly doesn't keep me hidden,
and he continues to surprise me with the posh Do's & functions he takes me to
as well as the famous and powerful people I end up socialising with.

Two of the long-term couples who are close friends of mine
have relationships which in many ways are similar to mine, ie. normal.
The women friends who have a T history, are never kept in the dark nor hidden away.
They are treated by their men correctly, which is as well loved female partners.

Trans who are treated as a dirty little secret
...well that is their male partners issues & insecurities.
It is also a wider reflection of the societies in which we exist,
where trans is the new gay
and therefore taboo.

Trans long term visibility in mainstream is the only way
for societies to grow and accept us.
I'm totally stealth {work & this forum, acknowledged}
So I'm not seen in wider society as trans
and so I contribute nothing to trans normality/visibility.
I wish there was something I could do
which does not involve throwing away the one thing I've strived so long for
and made huge sacrifices to achieve.
Oh well....