Dating a transsexual woman.

[smc]

Jodie, thanks for your post.

I'm in love with a transsexual woman. It's a coincidence that she's trans, and I wasn't looking for love. I met her as a transsexual (by which I mean I knew she was TS), but my attraction was something completely different. She will likely have SRS. I don't care. I'm in love. She knows how I feel. Most likely, nothing will ever come of it. The complications are enormous, and not just the sort you write about, Jodie. There are all sorts of other complications that you find in relationship irrespective of the gender identity of the parties involved.

I would, by the way, answer that question about the relationship if she "reverted" to being a man exactly the same way. Who cares? I love the person she is; I love the person she was; I love the person she wants to become. They are one and the same person (yes, I know there are lots of "issues). The package (no pun intended) doesn't matter.

[Bionca]

"It's a bit like you saying:”You suffer from deep suicidal depression, I like that in a woman, lets date”"

HA!!! I'm totally thiefing this line!

[Bionca]

I'd also add that so many of us have our walls up due to real or perceived poor treatment by past dates or those of our friends (and our own first-hand observations of men pre-transition). It takes some doing to get past the damage the past however many men have done. Since lots of gals (myself included unfortunately) are pretty willing to chalk up any perceived slight as a deal-breaker or harbinger of bad things to come.

[franalexes]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I'd also add that so many of us have our walls up due to real or perceived poor treatment by past dates or those of our friends (and our own first-hand observations of men pre-transition). It takes some doing to get past the damage the past however many men have done. Since lots of gals (myself included unfortunately) are pretty willing to chalk up any perceived slight as a deal-breaker or harbinger of bad things to come.

I think my wall,,,, has a door; closed, sealed and welded.

[randolph]

Originally Posted by franalexes

I think my wall,,,, has a door; closed, sealed and welded.

Unfortunately, porn sites including this one foster the view that most transsexuals are prostitutes to be used for personal pleasure. It is a sad situation. On a more positive note there is an increased public awareness of the transsexual community and efforts are being made to encourage respect.
Best Wishes.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Bionca

HA!!! I'm totally thiefing this line!

You go right ahead.

I hope you have a great Seasons holiday & I look forward to more of your posts both here and On Laugh RioT.

[Trogdor]

And the penis.
Are you really only want to date us because we are a female with a penis?
Most of us will have Sex Reassignment Surgery SRS.
Will you stay with us?
Or was it in the end, only about our cock?

One thing, though. Some of us were never into vagina in the first place.
I look at it and get all grossed out. Only girls with the vag I can see myself with are intersexed girls, which I have dated one of once.

I tried, but I just don't like 'em, yet I am not into dudes....only if the boy's very, very, very feminine.
So, if someone has an idea what sorta sexual orientation I have could be of some use on what to call me.

Boy, I'm sure an interesting case, yes?

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Trogdor

...what sorta sexual orientation I have could be of some use on what to call me.

Er, that would be Bisexual

[mrtrebus]

I have to be honest, I am guilty of objectifying 'shemales'. Mainly because I only see them in a sexual context. If I applied this approach to women I would be appalled at my own attitude, but somehow don't think about it in the same way when applied to 'shemales'.

I don't know what the answer is, I'm just being honest.