Umm I guess that I need to say this.

[smc]

Of course, I wish for the best possible test results.

This sort of behavior by men shames me as a man. Just as no means no, so too must the "ground rules" be respected in a sexual encounter.

I am glad, tslust, that (as you write) "talking about it seems to help," even if only "kinda." I also thank you for sharing this with the Forum. If it serves to remind only one other member here of the importance of remembering that "consent" is more than "yes" but has multiple layers, you have done a great service to us all.