Ask Jenae for real answers - no games.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Jenae LaTorque

I have to ask; what is a toasted tea cake?
...then I have to wonder what your motive is.
...or do you have some ulterior motive.

Aaah!
You're a waffles man.

Um, ulterior motive?
... yes.
Well you mentioned in your first post

Originally Posted by Jenae LaTorque

I would like to open the field to any and all questions.
I have had my IQ tested at over 6000...

So I wanted to see if it was true.
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[Jenae LaTorque]

"I have had my IQ tested at over 6000....."

Well, that is true in one sense since the elevation here is 6286 feet above sea level.

Waffles? You bet! Everyone loves waffles......don't they?

[EdwardSinclair]

I was wondering what do you think about life? Do you think there is more to life than waking up going to work, getting home to eat, have sex, etc. and repeat the next day? (Not including socializing and weekend with family and friends)

What is your philosophy in life? What makes you who you are? Do you help other because you care about them, or are you a selfish being seeking recognition? Do you think you are special, or do you sometimes feel flawed?

Do you ever feel like you are half of what you are? Like something is missing, or is there a duality to your person? What gender do you associate yourself with the most?

If you can answer any or all of my questions, I would appreciate it...

[Jenae LaTorque]

Life! Life is what you make it. The first thing abut life is SURVIVAL; living to see another sunrise. If you have a family, then they are included in this. Ensuring that they survive may result in your non-survival.

Once you have the basic needs: food, water, shelter, clothing, etc.. covered then it is time to seek the finer things in life. But before we talk about them, let's discuss your job, A wise man said that if you find an occupation you love to do, then you will never toil a day in your life. While this is true to some extent, a word of caution here. I don't think it is wise to do this at a price to your family. I think we have all heard, or personally know of cases where a person is a great provider for his family on the financial side, but is a lousy father otherwise. There has to be a balence here. Do not become a "slave to the machine."
About family: While our culture seeks to promote child bearing, it not a prerequisite to a happy and fulfilling life. There are many people who are not suited to being parents for one reason or many. If fact, I believe the world would be a much better place if child bearing and raising were limited to those who are fit to do the job right. Yes, there are many great people who come from a situation with lousy parents that turn out to be great people. BUT, the vast majority turn out to be be dysfunctional themselves and go on to produce more problems. The main point here is that parenting should be a real commitment; if not, please don't even start.
What determines the value of a person? Well.....that all depends on the yardstick you measure by. And you must have some means to determine how you are doing so far. You know yourself better than anyone as long as you never lie to yourself. I cannot repeat that too strongly and often. NEVER, EVER, LIE TO YOURSELF. "To thine ownself, be true." You may lie to others as sometimes the truth is too brutal, but when it comes to yourself, be brutally honest. The first step in correcting any fault, problem, personal failing, etc.. is to face up to it. Do not be generous to yourself, don't make exuses or rationalize a problem. Think on it and form a strategy to deal with it; then DO IT.
Helping others? When it comes to this subject, I advise everyone to read Robert Ringer's book: "Looking Out For # 1." Don't let the title discourage you, it is a great philosophy of life and relationships to other people. The subject of rational selfishness vs. unrational selfishness alone make the price of the book cheap at any cost. READ THIS BOOK!!!!!
Me personally? "I'm OK, You're OK" but .......we could be better.....right? It is a tough thing to do when we seek to change ourselves for the better. We all have habits that are the result of a lifetime of reinforcement in use. If they are good habits; fine. If not, we need to try and change them for the better. The important thing is to recognize them, AND, resolve to do something about the situation. One method that works for me it to spend some time in the evening and review the day behind me. Some may use a meditation period for this, others may spend some time in prayer, some may combine these. The important thing is to contemplate your life; recognizing the plus and minus events of the day. If you just forget about them, then that is exactly what they will be: forgotten and no benefits and lessons learned. That is a life wasted.
One thing that you run into time and time again is that people who are nearing death don't so much regret the things they did, so much as the things they didn't do. You have heard the words: "Seize the day", and it is so true. Grab life by the throat and milk it for all it's worth. If you feel like you're missing something or there is a duality that is unexpressed, then that is because it is true. Examine your feelings and be honest with yourself. If you really want something, go for it. Like Yoda said, "There is no try, there is only DO!"
As for myself, I recognize that there is some duality to my own make-up. I know that I don't feel as "macho" as a lot of guys seem to be. I realize that many people spend their lives acting out a role that their culture expects of them. That is fine for them, perhaps; but I, and this is getting back to being true to yourself, find there is room for being more than being just confined to one set of gender sterotypical behaviors. Of course I identify with being a man more than a woman, but I don't limit myself. First, I am a person. I happen to be a male but that is not a main defining criteria as far as how I see myself. Not even in the top ten for that matter. It may have been in my younger days when all those hormones were racing through me. You, being still a young man, are much more affected by those biological factors than you realize. It is something to consider when you evaluate yourself, your thoughts and your actions. The sexual urges are very powerful -the question is: who is the boss?

Jenae