Feared or Respected?

johndowe · #1 09-07-2009

Hi there.

I can't believe that nobody exept Creesence had anything to say about this, which is one of the leading cause of all inter-racial problems today, and most other intra-racial problems, where everybody wants to be respected but they don't understand what respect is, and all too often ends in bloodshed.

I do not request you to ansewer, I DEMAND IT.

JohnDowe.

The Conquistador · #2 09-08-2009

Fear and respect can go hand in hand. If you respect someone, you would be afraid to wrong them or dissappoint them in any way. So while you do fear them, it is a fear that can be healthy and beneficial to both. However, if you are talking about irrational fear, like someone threatening you with the prospect of death, I will have to go with respect instead.

johndowe · #3 09-08-2009

Hi there.

8 visitors and only 1 post, guys (and girls) get with the program.

Haven't you been disrespected, or were afraid of an asshole that liked to be feared?

Did you like it?

Well speak up, or maby i should say squeek up like little mice?

I guess Bionca was right when she said "the cowards we date".

So are you pissed enough to ansewer?

But of course i would have prefered not to have to taunt you into posting, but whatever works i guess.

Also if you do amass the courage to post, try to keep on subject and address the ptoblem, and realise that i only taunted you to try to get some ideas about the miss-information about the respect and fear problem, that often ends up killing our youth.

JohnDowe.

Jenae LaTorque · #4 09-09-2009

You speak of the problems facing our youth. The root of the problem with them is that they don't learn what the word respect really means in school.

Respect is a feeling of esteem and honor for another; that is - you admire positive traits in that person. A feeling of very deep respect is veneration which includes love and reverance.

So where did these kids get the wrong idea? They have been taught that respect is coupled with fear. They are told to respect their teachers, their parents, their elders, the police, etc. Not because these people are worthy of respect, but because they are in positions of authority, and the youth are in a subordinate position - one of fear of punishment. So they are mixed up about the difference in respect for someone as a person and respect for a position of authority that someone holds.

It's almost as if we need another word for respect as applied to those in authority. How about fearspect?

johndowe · #5 09-09-2009

Hi there.

I am waiting for more replies and on Tuesday Sept. 22nd i will ansewer all, and thank you to all that have posted.

Jenae you do have good arguments.
And so do you Mr. angry.

JohnDowe.

johndowe · #6 09-10-2009

Hi there.

Come on post, don't be shy.

JohnDowe.

johndowe · #7 09-22-2009

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jenae LaTorque

You speak of the problems facing our youth. The root of the problem with them is that they don't learn what the word respect really means in school.

Respect is a feeling of esteem and honor for another; that is - you admire positive traits in that person. A feeling of very deep respect is veneration which includes love and reverance.

So where did these kids get the wrong idea? They have been taught that respect is coupled with fear. They are told to respect their teachers, their parents, their elders, the police, etc. Not because these people are worthy of respect, but because they are in positions of authority, and the youth are in a subordinate position - one of fear of punishment. So they are mixed up about the difference in respect for someone as a person and respect for a position of authority that someone holds.

It's almost as if we need another word for respect as applied to those in authority. How about fearspect?

Hi there.

I hope the war axe is burried, it is on my end.

Yes it's true the definition is not out there, and it needs to get out.

You bring up a good point an new word for listening to authority figures is indeed needed, since using the word respect causes confusion, listen to and mind might be good, but still i'm not sure how to call it.

JohnDowe.

johndowe · #8 09-22-2009

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheAngryPostman

Fear and respect can go hand in hand. If you respect someone, you would be afraid to wrong them or dissappoint them in any way. So while you do fear them, it is a fear that can be healthy and beneficial to both. However, if you are talking about irrational fear, like someone threatening you with the prospect of death, I will have to go with respect instead.

Hi there.

I do respect many people, and i don't like to disappoint them, i don't want to wrong them, not because i'm afraid but because i respect them and myself, fear has it's place, in life and death situations, but to live in fear, not a life for me, i'm not used to taking shit from anyone, not my bosses, not my g/f's not my sister, not my dad, my mom did give me shit for a good 20-30 minutes once, for something i did but had FIXED, and she DID pay the price and never crossed me again, no i didn't hit her, i am very freindly, but i do not accept dis-respect from anyone, period.

And as for the respect fear thing, it seems to me that the more you respect someone the less you fear them, and the more you fear them the less you respect them, but the less fear on the respect is not that you'd flip them out, but you respect them back and treat them right as they treat you.

JohnDowe.