Feared or Respected?

Creedence · #1 09-10-2009

Quote:

Originally Posted by johndowe

Hi there.

You would be betrayed in a minute if they were confronted by something they feared more.

Loved over feared, sure, loved over respected, couldn't realy choose, loved but not respected? I don't think so, you need both.

Another example:

You get hit by a car, hit and run, you are close to dying, people in nearby houses see you, but you can't see them.

Feared: reaction: let him die he won't terrorize us anymore.

Respected: reaction: Oh, no, call 911, they come to you, the ambulance is on the way, anything we can do to help you?

Still prefer feared?

JohnDowe.

Yes actually I would still prefer feared because you're under the impression that everyone would hate me.

I wouldn't treat everyone I know like a tyrant I would have a group of people who I care about and they care about me.

You said I need both but originally you mentioned I had to choose one or the other.

If I'm loved I'm vulnerable to many things such as betrayal and people thinking that while I'm compassionate I am also weak for it.

I would choose Love if I could but you asked to be feared or respected and you don't need to be loved to respected.

johndowe · #2 09-14-2009

Hi there.

It isn't the 22nd yet, keep posting.

JohnDowe.

johndowe · #3 09-21-2009

Hi there.

Only one day to go, come on POST, it ain't that hard, and you'll feel good that you did.

JohnDowe.

Jenae LaTorque · #4 09-21-2009

Right back at ya!!! I think it is high time you posted some pics of yourself. And even if you didn't get any pics of the little grey guys, I'll bet you have some of yourself. So let's see them. I saw where you stated that you are a CD and nearly every CD has to take pics of themselves; it is almost an integral part of the scene. Hell, if this F2m Tboy?? had the balls to post self pics, anybody should.

http://forum.transladyboy.com/showth...329#post103329

johndowe · #5 09-22-2009

Hi there.

I posted this @ http://forum.transladyboy.com/showth...?t=6668&page=2

"I know this is off subject, but...

Jenae, much better exposure, you see what constructive criticism can do, the exposure is great, your face is in a normal human color, good job.

I guess people are starting to realise that I AM ALWAYS RIGHT ! (Althoug mostly true, it is a joke)"

Self pics, ok...

PIB00.jpg

Sand01a.jpg

Made those pics with webcam i was installing on a freind's cpu and didn't do any more after i saw them, i was pressed for time and did a quick change, only to test the cam, couldn't get myself to delete then though.

So have a good laugh, and lets get this over with.

JohnDowe.

Jenae LaTorque · #6 09-22-2009

Nope, no way! Nothing to laugh about!

unless you were saying that you left the pics on your friends computer.?? Now that would be funny if the pics were a complete surprise to the friend.

Black is my favorite color for the vinyl stuff too. Then comes red. Looks like stiletto heels, 5 or 6 inch? All in all, a pretty effective looking Dom Mistress outfit.

johndowe · #7 09-22-2009

Hi there.

Thank you Jenae, you ARE too kind, and the heels 5.5" measured them with a square, the proper way to measure heels.

It was on my cpu and if it were on my freind's it wouldn't have been a surprise, i told him and his g/f, because i wanted to, i wasn't caught.

JohnDowe.

johndowe · #8 09-22-2009

Quote:

Originally Posted by Creedence

Yes actually I would still prefer feared because you're under the impression that everyone would hate me.

I wouldn't treat everyone I know like a tyrant I would have a group of people who I care about and they care about me.

You said I need both but originally you mentioned I had to choose one or the other.

If I'm loved I'm vulnerable to many things such as betrayal and people thinking that while I'm compassionate I am also weak for it.

I would choose Love if I could but you asked to be feared or respected and you don't need to be loved to respected.

Hi there.

Re-read my post, you will see that i didn't say both respect and fear, i did say love and respect, not the same thing.

If you are loved, and you are vulnerable, and compassionate, vulnerable in love is NOT a bad thing, it means you truely love, trust and respect your lover, it is very far from beeing a weakness, being compassionate, is a VIRTUE, a strength and not a weakness, those who think that it is a weakness are fools that do not understand life and respect.

Love without respect canot flourish, it is choked out of existance by the lack of a good respectfull understanding of each of the parties.

You seem to see things from an adversarial point of view, not everybody is out to get you, most people are good and decent, lower your deflector shields once in a while and take the time to smell the roses, you may like what you see.

And if everybody in your viscinity is out to get you, and everybody else, get the heck out of there, that is NOT NORMAL, it is unhealthy for you and all that participate.

Also if you are feared outside of your home/entourage, it WILL come back to you and your entourage sooner or later, usually sooner, because of what you have to do to keep the fear fresh in those that fear you, and one day someone of your entourage will get you mad, and you will act the same way you have with the others that you want to frighten.

JohnDowe.