Serious Question for Transwomen

[Bionca]

Good question.

I think the motivations are going to be as different as the women themselves. I will say that all three are correct and not mutually exclusive.

I can say that absolutely physical discordance with the body was a HUGE motivation for my various surgeries. With increased comfort with one's body can come increased sexual gratification.

The social part of SRS is problematic. It is not uncommon for TG health to assume SRS as the only valid destination. That all other opinions are fetishistic or wrong. Given that in most places documentation cannot be changed without SRS there is further pressure for trans women to go that route.

I have one friend who is saving for SRS because it's just easier. She hasn't been swimming at a beach or public pool in 10 years, she doesn't do many of the physical activities she used to like to do because of fear that she won't be able to hide being trans.

[tgsexual]

Thanks Bionca for getting the ball rolling and for some great insights.

Yes, the combination of motivations may not be mutually exclusive.

The issue of changing gender on documentation is particularly troubling as an incentive as some countries require SRS before they'll allow a gender change to allow visas, marriage, workplace rights etc. It's a kind of castration by state to say you can only marry X or live in Z if you have SRS. Unfortunately, sometimes that is the first step on the path to laws allowing voluntary gender changing. One awkward step at a time.

I guess wanting to have SRS so that one doesn't stand out, so to speak, is part of the social influence / pressure category. That may not seem to some a legitimate reason, but it's a real pressure and SRS can make some aspects of fitting in, in this world, more comfortable.

That said, if I my transgirlfriend wanted to undertake SRS based solely on that, I'd try to talk her out of it. But there's a line where one goes past being a bit self interested (such as asking your girlfriend to wear her hair this way or that) and being greedy tyrant that demands their partner to be something that clearly troubles her. Finding these lines can be tricky in all relationships.

That brings to mind the issue of finding suitable partners, and the role that plays in making the decision to undertake SRS or not. Opinions?

[Creedence]

I just think that they decide to have SRS because it's their final step to becoming a complete woman.

Something they have been waiting for their entire lives to do, I'm merely guessing so please don't attack me if I am wrong.

[The_Void]

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Originally Posted by Creedence

I just think that they decide to have SRS because it's their final step to becoming a complete woman.

Something they have been waiting for their entire lives to do, I'm merely guessing so please don't attack me if I am wrong.

Who is that is your avatar?

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