Hello from melissa carter

[Bionca]

Melissa, nice to have you here. I have to agree with you, at least for me. My transition had really nothing to do with either sex or dressing up. Really, I had plenty for sex prior and could easily have led a "secret life" as a CD. Cripes, I suppose I could have become a drag queen (except I never did learn how to apply makeup THAT well).

It's a part of being Trans that I think lots of people overlook. The clothes and hair and sex are all fine and dandy... but the moment my body started to match up with how I always thought it should have been was the real relief and the moment my life started to turn around.

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Melissa, nice to have you here. I have to agree with you, at least for me. My transition had really nothing to do with either sex or dressing up. Really, I had plenty for sex prior and could easily have led a "secret life" as a CD. Cripes, I suppose I could have become a drag queen (except I never did learn how to apply makeup THAT well).

It's a part of being Trans that I think lots of people overlook. The clothes and hair and sex are all fine and dandy... but the moment my body started to match up with how I always thought it should have been was the real relief and the moment my life started to turn around.

BIONCA,

Don't a lot of drag queens overdo the cosmetics in a cartoonish or clownish manner? Though I did meet one once that even knowing her gender before meeting her at a party, I still couldn't tell by looking. I wanted to believe my eyes.

Originally Posted by Talvenada

BIONCA,

Don't a lot of drag queens overdo the cosmetics in a cartoonish or clownish manner? Though I did meet one once that even knowing her gender before meeting her at a party, I still couldn't tell by looking. I wanted to believe my eyes.

The term "drag queen" always offended me, not implying you are calling me that, simply making a distinction between a true transwoman and a drag queenie. They always repulsed me. To me drag queens are basically gay guys. I feel they do the trans community a disservice. Cartoonish is a good word.

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

The term "drag queen" always offended me, not implying you are calling me that, simply making a distinction between a true transwoman and a drag queenie. They always repulsed me. To me drag queens are basically gay guys. I feel they do the trans community a disservice. Cartoonish is a good word.

MEL,

I think it used to be, and in some segments of society still is, a one-size-fits-all term. So, the person I met wasn't a drag queen, but a term I hadn't heard of yet. Sometimes, trying to put the past into the present w/ terminology isn't in sync.

In fact, I cannot say that any or many of the t-girls on this site are drag queens.

TAL

Originally Posted by Bionca

Melissa, nice to have you here. I have to agree with you, at least for me. My transition had really nothing to do with either sex or dressing up. Really, I had plenty for sex prior and could easily have led a "secret life" as a CD. Cripes, I suppose I could have become a drag queen (except I never did learn how to apply makeup THAT well).

It's a part of being Trans that I think lots of people overlook. The clothes and hair and sex are all fine and dandy... but the moment my body started to match up with how I always thought it should have been was the real relief and the moment my life started to turn around.

You said it best when you said, "the moment my body started to match up with how I always thought it should".

Thanks.