I give up

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by bobbsie

Don't give up entirely Bionca, but i would defiantly just focus on yourself for a while. However ultimately we are social creatures, we want to be in fulfilling relationships and share our lives with others! However the pursuit of love can make one very miserable too. Very, very miserable.. lol! Sometimes you just need a break or you will become jaded.

To be honest I don't entirely understand why you have been treated so poorly.. Although could you be any more out of the main stream? Sci-fi fan and social worker??! :o) On the periphery much? On a serious note, I'm surprised you haven't meet someone while studying social work or networking in the field. Social workers are generally a pretty undiscriminating, straightforward and liberal bunch of people often, with like minded friends. Have you asked if someone can introduce you to a nice guy?

Well, I was in a relationship all through college and after graduation for a couple years (7 total). So I wasn't networking in that way when I was hanging out with social workers. I'm also not currently working in that field. I learned a long long time ago to never ever let my friends introduce to to someone or fix me up. They are profoundly bad at it. Honestly, I think the jaded is already happening, I think I know now why so many Transwomen in online chats/dating sites are so harsh with the guys.

Guys will promise the sun the moon and the stars to get in my panties. All I expect is some respect and dinner. I figure celestal gifts can come later. It amazes me how often guys fail to get over step #1. So many fail at step #1, I don't even think there isa step #2. Pretty pathetic really that a guy is special and a quality guy just for not chickening out on your first date and takes you out in public...

may have something to do with why Transwomen are 12x more likely to be killed or beaten by an intimate partner than genetic women.

[bobbsie]

I'm the first to admit the male species is a suspect creature at times, ok a significant amount of the time, but there are good guys out there. I still think it is about finding people with shared values. Maybe join a social action group or something? Worse case scenario you meet some nice people! :o) Although i can't talk, i keep meaning to do something like that, but uni seems to eat up a lot of my spare time. Excuses, excuses! Yeah, i am a hypocrite..

Meanwhile cats are great, that is when they're not demanding food, bringing home dead mice, meowing, scratching up the furniture, demanding food.. hmm.. have you thought about a dog?

12 times more likely?! That is scary when you think how high the family violence rates are in general

[Percival]

Hi Bionca,
In light of all the flattering and encouraging replies you've received I can only corroborate with them all. I only wish you lived a little closer than Australia, is it? Unfortunately it seems to me that I'm trying to crack this code myself. So far, every TGirl I've met (and I AM new to this) is professionally oriented, which I understand entirely. We are many of us professionals in various fields, we have something special and want to be paid for it. I hope that there are other girls like yourself out there. Of course, in both our cases, there's nothing to be accomplished by giving up. All the best.

[bobbsie]

Hey there, I think Bionca is actually in the US. If she was in Australia i'd be knocking her door down ;o) Where do you live?

[Bionca]

Given my deep attraction to Aussie blokes, if I lived in OZ I think I would be in some sort of constant erotic coma and unable to type, move, or really do much more than blink and drool.

I live in the middle of Ohio in the US. Recently moved back after a rather nasty break up with my long-term guy.

As far as the cats comment, it's really a comment on living alone. The proverbial "crazy cat-lady". I actually prefer dogs - you get the feeding and the dead mice (and assorted critters); but also get kisses and someone happy to see you.

Also, you guys are a riot. Everyone who has commented has at least made me smile.

[Ogryn1313]

Bionca, I know you to be an intelligent person.

And so it is with dismay I see you prefer dogs to cats.

The cat is a superior animal. Dogs are stupid no matter how well one trains them. They lack the actual intellect cats do. This is why a person can abuse a dog and it will come trotting up to be petted.

Not so with the almighty cat. Cats are truly intelligent animals.

Intelligent animals for intelligent people. You deserve a cat Bionca.

[Bionca]

hmm.. the eternal war between dogs and cats...

I don't take sides, I really love all animals.. except birds.. they totally freak me out. Seriously.

I grew up on a farm, so I have met my share of plain stupid dogs and cats for that matter. I do adore the kitties tho. In high school I had two cats Isabelle and Sheeba. Sheeba plainly hated every single human - except me. I'd come home from school and every day she'd meet me at the door and let out a series of short "meeows". It was like she was scolding me for leaving her in the care of that "crazy woman" my mom.

Isabelle was also totally my baby (tho she technically was my brother's cat). She'd lay down across my shoulders and the back of my neck like a scarff or a shrug (type of sweater/wrap thing for you guys). She'd sleep that way if I was really still and purr in my ear. Every so often she'd twitch her tail and hit me in the nose or the eye. So, yeah I loves the kitties.

Given my projected living situation (urban, small or no yard, alone, working) a cat would be a more appropriate pet. I do, however, dream of a time when I can own lots of land and have a dog rescue. Pretty pahetic dream I know, but whatcha gunna do.

and Ogryn... thanks for the "Intelligent" comment I appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Ogryn1313

Bionca, I know you to be an intelligent person.

And so it is with dismay I see you prefer dogs to cats.

The cat is a superior animal. Dogs are stupid no matter how well one trains them. They lack the actual intellect cats do. This is why a person can abuse a dog and it will come trotting up to be petted.

Not so with the almighty cat. Cats are truly intelligent animals.

Intelligent animals for intelligent people. You deserve a cat Bionca.

sometimes when i'm playing with my cats i get the feeling that my cats are playing with me. william s burroughs.

i much prefer dogs, cats are only interested in what you can do for them, its like they think their better than you. a good dog will fight to the death to defend its owners what would a cat do. also cats are evill i've seen cats more then once catching a mouse and instead of just killing it they sit and torment it for a while then kill it. although i did once see a cat stalking along the top of a fence and pouncing onto a pigeon killing it and running off with it, i thought this was very impresive.