questioning my sexuality. a new member

[jimnaseum]

I had to wait til I was on a disability retirement to find out I probably had a pituitary tumor as a kid. In school I always looked young, or sometimes with long hair I looked a little bit like a girl. I spent most of my time pretending everything is cool. Life is a struggle anyway. If you're in your twenties, it is important to find out if you're gay, or bi, or whatever. I never got married and I took a lot of flac for that from friends and family, but I was just being me. It sounds corny, but you got to be your self.

[CrimsonIdol56]

Gay? Straight? I dunno. These are labels that only you can choose for yourself. Sure, other people will draw their own conclusions about your orientation, but worrying about justifying yourself to those other people is a losing game. For example, I've been told that there's something "wrong" with me because I happen to be attracted to Asian women. I mean genetic girls, no fetish stuff, nothing kinky, yet there's something "wrong" because it's outside of the blonde haired girl-next-door stereotype. Point is, no matter what your preference, somebody is going to think it's weird. The real question is, what do YOU think?

Speaking for myself, I am 100% heterosexual. I say this because I'm not attracted to men, or interested in having sex with one. As far as male-to-female transgendered people... that's a matter of individual taste. I look at some of them, and I think "ewww! That's a man with long hair and breast implants!" Others radiate feminine sexuality, and I think of them as attractive women who happen to have a penis, and I'd probably go to bed with them given the chance. Does this mean I'm kidding myself about being completely hetero? I don't know, and don't care. Maybe it does. But I'm not going to listen to anybody who tells me that's what it means, and expects me to worry about it. I know what I like, and that's the end of the story as far as I'm concerned.

[jblast01]

I am new her myself as a poster. I have had a date with two perfect lady's.
I am not changed at all. I am not into other males.
Males have never entered my mind. When I discovered shemales it changed. I agree they have a cock. And I wanted that cock. I have never been attracted to a cock until I saw a well hung shemale.

[SweetCharmer]

well you'd never know if someone's being ironic or sarcastic i mean you can't hear the sarcasm

[ValerieKeefe]

I have a very loose definition of what a woman is and what a man is, myself, and sex really comes down to identification. "Shemales" are women with penises, that simple. Not all of those women are XY, many are XX, but were born hermaphroditic and managed not to get mutilated at birth. Some have desired a cock and while they might not get a live one, they can and do wear them. (friend of a friend is actually that way, so it's fortunate she's engaged to a very good hypnotist.) And there are straight women and lesbian women and closeted women and out women and bi women. Same goes for men. I don't think the genetalia makes a woman, the mind does, and the effort put into being a woman, and it does take a lot of effort for some who didn't get lucky at birth. So no, you're not gay for wanting to see a cock on Liz Hurley. A little kinky, but I guarantee you I win that contest... this is like the most normal of my fetishes.

FYI: I actually developed a shemale fetish because I fantasize about being turned into a blow up doll and kept by a loving owner... and I kinda want her to enjoy me.