Tgirl Etiquette

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by sesame

Very beautifully stated, especially the point that clearly advises on [COLOR="Blue"][B]underlining their femininity

Yes, Sesame, but isn't that sort of the obvious? I mean, who'd in their right mind would date a cute trans girl and then burst out: MARH GOD... YOU EVEN LOOK LIKE A GIRL...

My humble experience is that you compliment a transsexual woman as you compliment a cisgendered woman. No difference. AND you stay alert to deal with the "trans" object. Some (a few I admit) may feel antagonized a little bit if you overdo the woman-thing. It's a delicate balance - and isn't that what makes this so beautiful?

An x of mine said it this way: "I'm a woman - I'm a transsexual woman, not a genetic one. And I don't WANT to be a genetic woman."

That to me is a strong statement - a very beautiful statement that catches the entire point. Ofcourse, for some transsexual women that is just not enough. If they could change their cromosones they would.

Or as Fey, my first gorgeous gorgeous trans gf (I love her and luckily we're best friends here) put it: "To be a successful trans you must be at ease with your masculinity".

Well, there are as many approaches to being a transgendered woman as there are trans women, I'm convinced, but my point is that one's "respect" for her womanhood should not get exaggerated to the degree that it becomes ridiculous. Then we may land in the other ditch and oversee the fact that many (probably most) trans women like to be accepted as just that!

Am I rambling?

H