New and Looking

[RedderZNZ]

Too bad you're in the USA )))

[Bionca]

I suppose I should add, the ideal guy really must be comfortable with me being open about my status. I'm going to be working with GLBT runaways, and while I have no intention of ever being some Trans spokesmodel, I'll have to show by example that a person can live a fulfilling productive life without shame.

[belfagar]

I think you should settle for no less than pure love. You deserve no less.
Here's a meta-phor. A gift with strings, Is no gift at all.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by belfagar

I think you should settle for no less than pure love. You deserve no less.
Here's a meta-phor. A gift with strings, Is no gift at all.

That's the plan, and I thought I had it....

One of the reasons I joined here is to get a better understanding of the mind set of the guys who are asking me out. What are their expectations? I'll be honest, I never have really watched "shemale porn" until now... I like porn, but it's been hetero mainstream stuff (with some gay porn because really the guys in gay porn are WAY hotter). So, seeing this and reading the comments has been helpful (a little discouraging, but helpful).

[belfagar]

Keep up the search. It'll happen when it happens. Thats the only way things ever do work out. And a little more focus on your expectations are needed.

[sesame]

To Bionca:

...and reading the comments has been helpful
(a little discouraging, but helpful)

Helpful I understand. But why are you discouraged? Please dont be.

To Sml-seeker:

mental struggle is an indicator that you have a brain and it works and that you are more determined than others.....

Well said indeed. That is an epical statement worthy of praise.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by sesame

To Bionca:

Helpful I understand. But why are you discouraged? Please dont be.

Comments on the site in general, rather than on this thread specifically. Discouraging, because guys are both more and less honest with eachother about sex. They will be more willing to discuss what they like/want and more likely to exagerate what they have done or would do.

So, it's a little strange being a woman reading what is in essence "locker room talk". I just need to switch my frame of referance, and not try to compare myself to a fantasy.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by belfagar

Keep up the search. It'll happen when it happens. Thats the only way things ever do work out. And a little more focus on your expectations are needed.

I guess like most women, I'm more aware of what I don't want than what I do want. My only realy carved in stone expectations are respect, understanding, and honesty. Ideally one would play around with the particulars of personality during the dating part.

One thing that does kinda irritate me about other transwomen looking for a relationship is that they want to be treated like "a lady" (doors held open, stuff like that). Personally, I'd rather be treated like a person you want to impress (on the first few dates). Not like someone you are obligated to take out for drinks just so you can get in her panties.

[belfagar]

Originally Posted by Bionca

One thing that does kinda irritate me about other transwomen looking for a relationship is that they want to be treated like "a lady" (doors held open, stuff like that).

My attitude is you drop it, you pick it up. LOL