New and Looking

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by BLUEJS75

You look wonderful from where I'm sitting!

thanks I appreciate that very much

[sesame]

Bionca, it is not a crime to be oneself. Sometimes strong people take up where nature has left something midway, and bring out its final form. That is a brave act.
The society is a mixture of good people, bad ones and lots and lots of morons. So sometimes people say cruel things just to look smart. Anything new gets through a lot of struggle and controversy to be finally accepted. So have courage, buck up and continue in your own way.
Also it is good to be prudent. One should not expose everything to unworthy people. Only a few people can appreciate a valuable diamond and tell it apart from a piece of glass.

[Bionca]

Well I'm at a point of no return, so there isn't much more to do other than continue on. It just gets weird sometimes. It's like with gay people... one can draw a comparison based on romance or love.. these two guys love eachother just like a hetero couple. Everyone understands love, it's a shared human quality.

Most everyone has no conflict between their body and their identity, so saying "I always have been a girl" I suppose sounds like I'm crazy - no shared quality to compare. Usually if I explain further people start to get it, but then again, my story is not the same as every T-gal, my feelings and understanding arent shared even amongst my community. So lots of misunderstandings and strange assumptions *shrug*. My whole point being here, is because I'm really curious how you guys think and how you see women like me. Unfortunately, I think I'm just getting confused.

[sesame]

You are right Bionca. There are some qualities, notions and experiences that are common to most people. But then again, some experiences and qualities are just unique. Only you have them, others can hardly feel or understand them. Some feelings are so unique that they cannot be understood by others, even if you explain.
Women who are born as girls are ok. But a person who is born as a boy and becoming a girl is someone really special. Considering all the intense pain, hardship, social ridicule and mental struggle she goes through, I think she is full of strength, determination and courage. I cannot help but appreciate such a woman. Natural women are god-gifted, they didnt have to try anything, but a Tgirl is 100% self made.

[SHEMALE_SEEKER]

Originally Posted by sesame

Considering all the intense pain, hardship, social ridicule and mental struggle she goes through, I think she is full of strength, determination and courage.

Intense pain builds character, hardship prepares you for what is yet to come, social ridicule comes with the human package, mental struggle is an indicator that you have a brain and it works and that you are more determined than others.....
There is only one little problem,,,, only very few can survive the above and learn from it.

[SHEMALE_SEEKER]

You've expressed yourself in regard of who you are and who you want to be, and I am sure that you are all that you say you are, BUT, HAVE U ASKED YOURSELF WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IN A GUY ??

[SHEMALE_SEEKER]

98 % is still great :D

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by SHEMALE_SEEKER

You've expressed yourself in regard of who you are and who you want to be, and I am sure that you are all that you say you are, BUT, HAVE U ASKED YOURSELF WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IN A GUY ??

I've thought about that quite a bit actually. I'm looking, obviously, for a guy who shares common interests and world-view. That's pretty basic and essential in any relationship, and where it should start.

Where it gets more difficult, I guess, is a guy who is willing to see past anatomy and try to get to know ME. I'm a silly, geeky, girl who can quote Monty Python, discuss politics, talk for hours on a wide variety of topics, rock house in most video games, and has a soft spot for kids and animals. A guy who can appreciate those qualities and be a companion in them.. mmm.

On the shallow end, I do take good care of myself. Estrogen tends to make gals chunky at the levels I started taking, so I'm in pretty good shape, and my guy should be to. There would have to be a physical attraction, tho I hardly have a "type". I'm also not really pressed either way about age.

I think the biggest issue facing guys who like T-gals is we know men... from the inside out.. we were with you in the gym in Hish School, we were your "buddies", we served with you in the military, etc. Even if I don't "get" how you all think, I know how you think. I can smell BS from 50 paces.

I don't have a set criteria for qualities I'm look for in a partner aside from humor (making me laugh is very sexy), ability to stimulate me mentally as well as physically, and a willingness to understand that I'm going to have some issues that most women never have.

[Bionca]

Natural women are god-gifted, they didnt have to try anything, but a Tgirl is 100% self made.[/QUOTE]



Well.... I did have some help from a really good plastc surgeon.. so maybe 98% self-made