advice on coming out

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

i thought i would get crazy mind blowing sex with a ts, more so with one i lived with... but i didnt. i got in my experience a VERY NORMAL GIRL - BOY RELATIONSHIP.

I laughed out loud as I read that down the phone to my man.
Yep, that is the reality of ts dating. smiles

[JodieTs]

As you love her and she is the best thing ever in your life,
does she feel the same?
If so,
can you both at some point get back together,
then have time-out, away, like a holiday~ just you and her.
Then if you both see a long term relationship there
and if she still wants to,
talk with your family and friends as I suggest, above.

We expect a full report in due course.

[aussiepride]

we were together 15 mnths, living together for 13 mnths.

after 4mnths i realised sex with her was not like a ts fantasy.... i didnt end it then. i CHOSE to stay with her for the mental connection we had.

[smc]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

we were together 15 mnths, living together for 13 mnths.

after 4mnths i realised sex with her was not like a ts fantasy.... i didnt end it then. i CHOSE to stay with her for the mental connection we had.

Who ended it? Did she? Tell us why?

And if you're not together, why is coming out an issue?

I still think we'd learn some very interesting things from her, if we heard her side of the story ... things that paint a very, very different pictures. Just a hunch ...

[aussiepride]

she ended it.
the reasons she gave were that she needed therapy to deal with what happened to her (she went from never being depressed to attempting suicide while she was with her ex because of the way he treated her), and also although she chooses me to be with other any other person she was with, family acceptance is a big thing in her life.

we will still seach each other, we have each others units keys, we still have sex, kiss, hold hands when we se each other, we are just not living together anymore. She does not want to and will not see other people, she is focused on getting herself better.

[JodieTs]

She doesn't have family acceptance if they call her Bruce or Nigel.

Just keep talking with her, be support.

[aussiepride]

they still associate with her by her boy name but she is fully accepted.
her brother introuduces her to his new friends as his sister.

but its a little complicated because she only transitioned at 36. bit hard one day to start calling your brother by a new name, when you have been saying the old one for three decades.

and its a bit hard telling a 6 year old that he has done the wrong thing when he calls the stunning woman that picks him up from school in front of his teachers and class mates, uncle mark.

when she originally transitioned, she didnt take on a girl name at first, she still went by her boy name.

anyway, i think the issue getting a little side tracked. seems noone else on this forum has had a similar situation, where they have had to make the decision to tell friends and family that they are with a ts.