advice on coming out

[aussiepride]

Originally Posted by smc

Sorry, but you're wrong. I didn't "assume the prob was [YOUR] sex contact." I assumed this entire thing is bullshit. Frankly, when someone writes things like "i have to turn away people im that good in bed" itbecomes pretty difficult to take anything else they write seriously.

fair enough.
but i am an attractive, late 20s. early 30s fit bloke. believe what u like.
this is a genuine concern of mine. i dont want to loose her, and as it is, we are over.

i said those things to say my side of it... maybe i thought i would get crazy mind blowing sex with a ts, more so with one i lived with... but i didnt. i got in my experience a VERY NORMAL GIRL - BOY RELATIONSHIP. I hVe spoken to few people about this... and seriously, its been 2 days alone without her here, and i miss her lots.

[smc]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

fair enough.
but i am an attractive, late 20s. early 30s fit bloke. believe what u like.
this is a genuine concern of mine. i dont want to loose her, and as it is, we are over.

i said those things to say my side of it... maybe i thought i would get crazy mind blowing sex with a ts, more so with one i lived with... but i didnt. i got in my experience a VERY NORMAL GIRL - BOY RELATIONSHIP. I hVe spoken to few people about this... and seriously, its been 2 days alone without her here, and i miss her lots.

Which is when you say you "miss her lots":

"I have fallen deeply in love with her, shes makes me so happy."

or

"maybe I thought would get crazy mind blowing sex with a ts"

It's interesting to note that in your original post you indicated no reason for breaking up. I have a feeling that if we were to hear her reasons, you might not come out looking so good.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

i thought i would get crazy mind blowing sex with a ts, more so with one i lived with... but i didnt. i got in my experience a VERY NORMAL GIRL - BOY RELATIONSHIP.

I laughed out loud as I read that down the phone to my man.
Yep, that is the reality of ts dating. smiles

[JodieTs]

As you love her and she is the best thing ever in your life,
does she feel the same?
If so,
can you both at some point get back together,
then have time-out, away, like a holiday~ just you and her.
Then if you both see a long term relationship there
and if she still wants to,
talk with your family and friends as I suggest, above.

We expect a full report in due course.

[aussiepride]

we were together 15 mnths, living together for 13 mnths.

after 4mnths i realised sex with her was not like a ts fantasy.... i didnt end it then. i CHOSE to stay with her for the mental connection we had.

[smc]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

we were together 15 mnths, living together for 13 mnths.

after 4mnths i realised sex with her was not like a ts fantasy.... i didnt end it then. i CHOSE to stay with her for the mental connection we had.

Who ended it? Did she? Tell us why?

And if you're not together, why is coming out an issue?

I still think we'd learn some very interesting things from her, if we heard her side of the story ... things that paint a very, very different pictures. Just a hunch ...

[aussiepride]

she ended it.
the reasons she gave were that she needed therapy to deal with what happened to her (she went from never being depressed to attempting suicide while she was with her ex because of the way he treated her), and also although she chooses me to be with other any other person she was with, family acceptance is a big thing in her life.

we will still seach each other, we have each others units keys, we still have sex, kiss, hold hands when we se each other, we are just not living together anymore. She does not want to and will not see other people, she is focused on getting herself better.

[JodieTs]

She doesn't have family acceptance if they call her Bruce or Nigel.

Just keep talking with her, be support.