advice on coming out

[aussiepride]

ok

she had issues with n ex, was also things she needed to sort out, was also something she had to sort out, and yes she moved out after living with me for a year 2 days ago.

but what she did say is that our familys can not meet at present.
her fam calls her her boy name... her son, her brother etc..
she told me she always worried when she met my friends or fam that she had to be "on" and try to be female, so that they wouldnt notice, so that i wouldnt be "outed"

strangly however...she works for a large national company, and only the people she had in the interview know she is a ts, all other workers think she is female, a thing she does not correct them on.

and as for sex.... ahaha i nearly dumped her numerous times over the sex thing, because i didnt believe how her attitue towards it. but:
1. i have to turn away people im that good in bed
2. she maybe 39, but her ass is literally the size of a 16yr old... can hardly fit a finger in her... not to mention that i am thick
3. she has never cheated on me in 12mtns, even though she has had half of australia chasing her

[smc]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

ok

she had issues with n ex, was also things she needed to sort out, was also something she had to sort out, and yes she moved out after living with me for a year 2 days ago.

but what she did say is that our familys can not meet at present.
her fam calls her her boy name... her son, her brother etc..
she told me she always worried when she met my friends or fam that she had to be "on" and try to be female, so that they wouldnt notice, so that i wouldnt be "outed"

strangly however...she works for a large national company, and only the people she had in the interview know she is a ts, all other workers think she is female, a thing she does not correct them on.

and as for sex.... ahaha i nearly dumped her numerous times over the sex thing, because i didnt believe how her attitue towards it. but:
1. i have to turn away people im that good in bed
2. she maybe 39, but her ass is literally the size of a 16yr old... can hardly fit a finger in her... not to mention that i am thick
3. she has never cheated on me in 12mtns, even though she has had half of australia chasing her

I'm so torn. Do I beg you to fuck me? I mean, look at the stuff above, in bold. I'll even wear a dress!

Seriously, though, you read Jodie's response and this is what you write? Talk about missing the boat.

[aussiepride]

you assume the prob was MY sex contact. read what i wrote.

i am really torn. i love her yes, i love her more than i have loved another person.

but she has told me that if i tell fam n friends that she is TS then she would feel more committed to me.... OPPOSITE TO WHAT JODIE WROTE.

some people dont want to escape their past. My girl only become a TS when she was 35, prior to that she was a gay boy.

and unlike most TS, she takes horomones like clockwork.. it really lowers the sex drive as well

[smc]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

you assume the prob was MY sex contact. read what i wrote.

i am really torn. i love her yes, i love her more than i have loved another person.

but she has told me that if i tell fam n friends that she is TS then she would feel more committed to me.... OPPOSITE TO WHAT JODIE WROTE.

some people dont want to escape their past. My girl only become a TS when she was 35, prior to that she was a gay boy.

and unlike most TS, she takes horomones like clockwork.. it really lowers the sex drive as well

Sorry, but you're wrong. I didn't "assume the prob was [YOUR] sex contact." I assumed this entire thing is bullshit. Frankly, when someone writes things like "i have to turn away people im that good in bed" it becomes pretty difficult to take anything else they write seriously.

[aussiepride]

Originally Posted by smc

Sorry, but you're wrong. I didn't "assume the prob was [YOUR] sex contact." I assumed this entire thing is bullshit. Frankly, when someone writes things like "i have to turn away people im that good in bed" itbecomes pretty difficult to take anything else they write seriously.

fair enough.
but i am an attractive, late 20s. early 30s fit bloke. believe what u like.
this is a genuine concern of mine. i dont want to loose her, and as it is, we are over.

i said those things to say my side of it... maybe i thought i would get crazy mind blowing sex with a ts, more so with one i lived with... but i didnt. i got in my experience a VERY NORMAL GIRL - BOY RELATIONSHIP. I hVe spoken to few people about this... and seriously, its been 2 days alone without her here, and i miss her lots.

[smc]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

fair enough.
but i am an attractive, late 20s. early 30s fit bloke. believe what u like.
this is a genuine concern of mine. i dont want to loose her, and as it is, we are over.

i said those things to say my side of it... maybe i thought i would get crazy mind blowing sex with a ts, more so with one i lived with... but i didnt. i got in my experience a VERY NORMAL GIRL - BOY RELATIONSHIP. I hVe spoken to few people about this... and seriously, its been 2 days alone without her here, and i miss her lots.

Which is when you say you "miss her lots":

"I have fallen deeply in love with her, shes makes me so happy."

or

"maybe I thought would get crazy mind blowing sex with a ts"

It's interesting to note that in your original post you indicated no reason for breaking up. I have a feeling that if we were to hear her reasons, you might not come out looking so good.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

i thought i would get crazy mind blowing sex with a ts, more so with one i lived with... but i didnt. i got in my experience a VERY NORMAL GIRL - BOY RELATIONSHIP.

I laughed out loud as I read that down the phone to my man.
Yep, that is the reality of ts dating. smiles

[JodieTs]

As you love her and she is the best thing ever in your life,
does she feel the same?
If so,
can you both at some point get back together,
then have time-out, away, like a holiday~ just you and her.
Then if you both see a long term relationship there
and if she still wants to,
talk with your family and friends as I suggest, above.

We expect a full report in due course.

[JodieTs]

Ok that is curious.
If that is what she wants,
and if you go back out together
then if she is sure
it is up to her to tell your family
with you by her side, quietly supporting her.

If you got back together,
would you be ok about doing this?
If not, then it really isn't gonna work long term.

My man just said this:
From her reaction,
your partner is not a ts but a gay man, on hormones, playing the role of a woman..
If you are comfortable about both that and sharing it with your family, then there is no problem
But real Ts's feel comfortable in their female role
and after transition, look forward, not back.
[BTW, I don't agree with my man's take on this]

[smc]

Pay attention to what Jodie says, aussiepride. I have it on good authority that she has an advanced degress in transsexual psychology from the University of I Got It on the Bloody Streets!