Discussion of TS as escorts

[macc]

Originally Posted by Bionca

While I think the percent of trans women in sex work is higher than average, a figure of 90% is way to high.

The rest of what she says is spot on. I think when a majority of your proposed dates end up being "relaxing evening at her place (never his place)" or splitting a hotel and getting room service - something is up.

Most guys didn't want to be seen with me in public - and I NEVER get read as trans (except this one time by a homeless guy). Most guys would never even think about introducing me to their friends - ever. Most guys never bothered to tell me about the wife and kids.

I can totally understand why trans women get into sex work for the reasons mentioned above. Jobs are hard to get, guys treat us like we are porn fantasies regardless of their financial investment in our time, we are largely saddled with sexual expectations that cis women aren't - it's no wonder some gals think "I may as well get mine..."

It's kinda sad to hear this because I am one of those types of guys you are describing. It's a sad thing for myself to admit but it's true. I live in an unpopulated state where there really isn't any TS girls so people just aren't used to them, and they def wouldn't be used to me telling them how much I like them.

I have to drive 6 hours to the nearest city to visit them. A couple I've become good friends with and actually will go out with them on the town, though that's in a city where noone knows me so it makes it easier.

Theres no doubt about it, it would be hard being a ts girl in our society. I couldn't imagine. It's because of people like myself who are to scared to come out and discuss what we like with our good friends. The strange thing is my friends would still accept me even if I did tell them.

I fall under the I love women and TS but not men catagory.

Now going to the escort issue.....

It's sad because all the ts women I find attractive happen to be escorts. Now if I were ever to date one it wouldn't be an escort for obvious reasons. I understand they have to make their money but at the same way there are many ways to make money in our society. The one thing capatalism has given us is a platform for us to be able to come up with a creative idea and make a profit on it.

Over the years I've actually become pretty good friends with some of the top ts models. Yasmin, Sarina Valentina, Foxxy....just to name a few. I'm an attractive guy and I've always found it easy to get responses back from beautiful ts women. In saying this there is no way I could ever date any of them because of the business they work in. I have a a different standard in a women then that. Escorting is fine and it's there choice, but I wouldn't want to share and I don't think that's an unreasonable thing to ask for. I would hold a TS to the same standard as I do any GG. So it's to bad most of the hot ts women are in the industry. Or at least hot women I meet/know.

[JodieTs]

I know a lot of hot trans women
who don't escort
and hold the same values as you, on the relationship / dating / escort thing.

The truth is that if you are Ts, you do end up with a lot of Ts friends from all walks of life.
It's a safe comfort thing; we chat with each other and sometimes socialise
just because of the "T" thing in common.

Without that connection with others, a lot of Ts women are so hidden from their history.
One of my real world friends work in a very high visibility position in
consumer liaison. That means she interacts with huge numbers of people,
none of who are any the wiser.
Her on-line name on a trans forum for a while was Stealthlite, which sums it up nicely.

• You have trans who are generally visible because they either choose not to hide their past,
  or are by appearance/build. unable to. Mostly it's sadly the latter.
• You have a very small % of trans who are generally visible because they escort / do porn.
  and finally
• You have trans who are generally invisible because they do not escort and because they appear to be a bio-female.

Which is a bugger if you want to date a concept [a trans-female]
rather than a specific person [Susie who has a trans background]

Damned if I know.