Why don't you already have a transsexual girlfriend?

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by red56white

they are impossible to meet unless you pay them!
All i want is a steady girl
I love what you are showing and you know it would fit nicely in my mouth.

Let's see - I don't "meet" people for money. I also don't wear a sign around my neck stating my status - so people who I encounter going through my day probably don't realize that I'm trans.

It can be difficult since most guys who are into trans women want us to be 100% undetectable, but that limits their awareness of us in everyday life.

Being trans is not cheep - so obviously, some gals are going to charge for their time (particularly with guys who are married and won't be able to provide anything really serious).

[cham]

I have a ladyboy girlfriend in Bangkok and when I met her it felt like the most natural thing in the world to be with her. I went to cinemas, restaurants, temples, etc with her and it just felt right.

Her being 'passable' was not a criterion. We wanted to be together and that was the criterion.

Cham

[Enoch Root]

Originally Posted by Bionca

It can be difficult since most guys who are into trans women want us to be 100% undetectable, but that limits their awareness of us in everyday life.

Cosmic scale irony.



I would be eternally grateful to whatever generous soul pointed me in the right direction, given the utter dearth of of any kind of transsexual community in Puerto Rico.

[Amy]

Because many of us are already happily attached?

[JodieTs]

Do not under any circumstances dated a recent transitioner.
They will do your fuckin' head in.

If you want to go out with them, first ask this:
"How long ago did you transition?"
Anything less than three years, walk away.
Seriously, just walk away.

[JodieTs]

My other partner, a man, says this:

It's a strange thing to want to do, date a class of person,
rather than to want to date a particular person:
ie.
"I want to date a random transsexual transsexual person"
vs.
"I want to date Janet, who happens to be a transsexual person"

[locco86]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

Do not under any circumstances dated a recent transitioner.
They will do your fuckin' head in.

If you want to go out with them, first ask this:
"How long ago did you transition?"
Anything less than three years, walk away.
Seriously, just walk away.

i didn't understand what do u mean by this

[9yneGuy]

Because seeking a tgirl out soley because she's transgendered doesn't sit right with me. That kind of seems just as bad as seeking them out soley for sex. I want to fall in love with a person, not who the person is. If I like someone enough, it won't matter if they're a genetic or a tgirl.

[ila]

Originally Posted by 9yneGuy

Because seeking a tgirl out soley because she's transgendered doesn't sit right with me. That kind of seems just as bad as seeking them out soley for sex. I want to fall in love with a person, not who the person is. If I like someone enough, it won't matter if they're a genetic or a tgirl.

I didn't seek out my girl because she is trans. We met (right here on this site) and I was attracted to her for who she is. And now I'm in love with her and I couldn't be happier.

[JodieTs]

Quote:
Originally Posted by JodieTs View Post
Do not under any circumstances dated a recent transitioner.
They will do your fuckin' head in.

If you want to go out with them, first ask this:
"How long ago did you transition?"
Anything less than three years, walk away.
Seriously, just walk away.

Originally Posted by locco86

i didn't understand what do u mean by this

Oh early transition, we have so many issues to work through
that it overspills into any relationship.

My man just asked how long I'd transitioned when we first met...
A. 2 years 9 months....
{well he is very tolerant}

[Trogdor]

Between the fact that Michigan is full of 'midwestern values' and bigots in Detroit, and the that I can't find any of the over here....and the only ones in my neck of the woods look exactly like John Goodman and Graham Chapman in dresses .....it's hard to find that perfect someone where I am.

The Michigan is simply NOT like either New York or California.

[racquel]

Everybody kinda has a type. Maybe 75% of the girls you've dated have big tits. Maybe you've dated several black girls. But when you overly fixate on a type it gets a little creepy. There's a small-ish bar in Phoenix where the trans girls outnumber the genetic girls. Sure, in your average bar guys are just trying to get laid most of the time, but in a tranny meat-market you'll often run into guys who are totally unapologetic about being married and just wanting you to come back to their hotel room while they're in town on business without even getting you a drink.

In the average bar, at least 95% of guys who start a conversation with me are totally friendly, get me a drink, are fine just talking for awhlie, and will maybe try to give me their number or say they'd like to go out to dinner or a movie or whatever sometime.

In the average TS-leaning bar (or a gay bar where I'm hanging out with the TG crowd), I'll run into TS people or gay guys who are totally friendly, but when it comes to guys looking to hook up, they're fucking ridiculous. 95% of them would never even entertain the idea of being seen in public in daylight with the tranny they're trying to fuck.

So many people here claim they want a relationship with a TS girl, but are they really being honest with themselves?

Like Bionca was saying, they want 100% passable girls, but how's that supposed to work? You want TS girls to walk around with signs saying they have a penis, but then once you meet them you want them to burn the sign and never tell anybody?

This all makes me wonder how much of a relationship they really want if they're so hung-up on passability. I don't think it's about them equating passability with attractiveness. I think it's because they're in the closet and they never want anybody to know they've got a bit of a cock fixation.

If you're in the closet, you have no room to complain if the only kind of tranny you can get is a middle-aged crossdresser who is also in the closet about your encounter.

I'm not the hottest girl in the world, but I'm OK, and I get hit on. I don't really get read much, and when I do I think it's more about me being 6'0". Compared to the local TG crowd, I'm doing pretty well. I think there are a lot of guys looking for TS girls and I do kinda catch their eye being tall. It often seems like the guys trying the hardest to pick me up have a little bit of a clue.

But the guys trying the hardest to pick me up would really be better off looking through shemale escort listings. They're thinking I'm probably trans, and that little thing they picked up on that makes them think I have a penis means they're going to want me to be their dirty little secret because they're afraid their friends and family might figure it out, too, if I met them.

And this is the way people here feel, too, for the most part, or they wouldn't make such a big deal about passability.

If you really do have respect for TS girls, then it shouldn't be hard to get a little involved with the local TS community. I lived in Dayton, Ohio for 7 years. If there's a TS community there, you can find one anywhere.

Think long and hard about what you're really looking for. I know the idea of being yourself and coming out of the closet and not worrying if someone sees you with a girl with big feet might seem like something you could never do, but you'd probably die a happier person if you did. It might be nearly impossible, and maybe you're just trying to get laid, but good luck finding any sympathy from the TG crowd, because they've usually gone through plenty themselves. If you're never really going to want a relationship and you just want some T-girl cock on the down-low, be honest about it. And don't be a cheap bastard. Support a shemale hooker. That's what they're there for.

Originally Posted by Trogdor

Between the fact that Michigan is full of 'midwestern values' and bigots in Detroit, and the that I can't find any of the over here....and the only ones in my neck of the woods look exactly like John Goodman and Graham Chapman in dresses .....it's hard to find that perfect someone where I am.

The Michigan is simply NOT like either New York or California.

As someone who spent their whole life in Ohio till last year, I know where you're coming from. And actually, since I went to OSU I'm supposed to hate you...

But seriously, if you were nice to the John Goodmans and weren't afraid to say hi, you'd probably eventually meet Goodman's more passable TS friends.