Interest in trans lifestyle waxing and waning

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by no1000

This might have nothing to do with your post but when I read what you wrote these thoughts came to my brain. My girl(who is a tgirl) just moved states and I feel pretty lonely. She was awesome and a very caring person. She was respectful and down to earth. There are times where I also feel like 'coming out of the closet' and telling people I like transexuals. I want to do this because the times I hung out with my girl(i hate calling her a tgirl because we had many talks about the subject ranging from her childhood to the present. Yes...we did other things than just fucking hahaha). I always had to lie to everybody as to where I was going blah blah blah. Sometimes I wish I could just talk about what I really feel to my friends but instead I have to act completely 'straight' even though I might be feeling different. It's not like I act fem or anything but what I'm talking about is that my opinions about topics have to be 'straight'. My father is very homophobic as this is how mexican culture is. Anyways...I feel you man, that is why were all here in this forum.

At some point one has to become honest about one's opinions even to those close to us. Let's look at this without talking about your girl - would you be ashamed to hold a different opinion about politics from your father or your friends?

Taking things with your girl in mind - does she have the option to lie to her parents and friends? I'm not saying you should do anything or not do anything - but the fear of rejection and ridicule is something every trans women HAS to face. We aren't lucky enough to choose not to... just a thought for you.

[no1000]

Not at all. I have many opinions and thoughts that are very very different from friends and my parents regarding everyday issues. But at this moment, for me 'coming out' is not an option at least to my parents but to tell you the truth it isn't a super BIG deal. I just say I'm going to hang out with X and they don't question me. I'm 23 and I have my own life and they respect that 100%. The truth is I love ladyboys and that will never stop but I eventually do want to have children. Adoption and a petri dish fertilization is out of the question. I want them to be mine and my wife's. I have no problem dating ladyboys but at I will never disclose that to 99% of people. One of my girl friends does know my love for them but that is all oh and except all you people in the forum.

I know what you are saying about my girl. She had the choice of being herself or hiding her true self. She was true to herself and she told me she's never been happier. I respect and admire her for choosing what she chose and that goes for all people who make difficult choices whether it be sexual or not.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by no1000

Not at all. I have many opinions and thoughts that are very very different from friends and my parents regarding everyday issues. But at this moment, for me 'coming out' is not an option at least to my parents but to tell you the truth it isn't a super BIG deal. I just say I'm going to hang out with X and they don't question me. I'm 23 and I have my own life and they respect that 100%. The truth is I love ladyboys and that will never stop but I eventually do want to have children. Adoption and a petri dish fertilization is out of the question. I want them to be mine and my wife's. I have no problem dating ladyboys but at I will never disclose that to 99% of people. One of my girl friends does know my love for them but that is all oh and except all you people in the forum.

I know what you are saying about my girl. She had the choice of being herself or hiding her true self. She was true to herself and she told me she's never been happier. I respect and admire her for choosing what she chose and that goes for all people who make difficult choices whether it be sexual or not.

Men who date trans women seem to be the most hung up on eventually having biological babies - either that or it's just the easiest excuse to pull out when the going gets a little to hard for the delicate little flowers who chase trannies.

OK buttercup, it's your life and I'm sure you have a fantastic future ahead of you sneaking around on the wife and kiddies. "Admire" the trans women all you want - because you should. Don't confuse that with respect though - "dating" someone and keeping them a secret is a sign of shame not respect.

The only reason I'm being hard on you is because you tried to play a big sob story. You aren't in a position to get much sympathy from a trans woman or guys who honestly date us. You are in a situation that your own shame and cowardice created.

On the other hand, maybe you will find a girl who is equally ashamed of you and couldn't imagine bringing you to meet her friends.