My first time here, and my confusion

[Phenom99]

Originally Posted by Bionca

You are absolutely correct, we live in a society that loves two boxes (black/white, gay/straight, man/woman) with no movement and no deviations. The realization that one does not neatly fit one of those handy labels can be frightening and confusing.

I imagine that the discovery that one can find a woman with a penis attractive would be a shock and would come with a number of questions about identity and sexuality. In essence "what does this mean" and "what does this make me". A community like this can be very helpful as a place to ask questions and to have the freedom to self-identify.

Yes, there are lots of things to sort out. Especially given that unless you have a label to ascribe to yourself, you can't do anything in America.

I was reading an article a few days ago for research, about an African tribe, in which gender is determined simply by the way in which you live, and not by physical markers. So people could go back and forth in the span of a day, depending on whether they fish or farm, walk with a blanket or not, who they love, etcetera. They are called the Vezo people, check them out, it's pretty cool haha if you like reading dry history (i'm a history major, lol)